Tuesday 17 March 2015

The Princess...just when i thought i had heard it all

Im seriously thinking of re-naming my blog "Bdsm soap opera"

this can be part 556, take 1

I thought i was past being shockable, but i was wrong.

So he says the other day, out the blue

"what are your thoughts on me taking the virginity of a very sub lesbian?"

After picking ones jaw off the floor, i asked for more details, he gave them......after the inital "wtf" and processing the information, the next day i couldnt stop laughing, sitting having a coffee my daughter thought i had gone mad, as i was thinking about it and just burst out laughing.

From here on in sub lesbian with be known as the princess, coz im being flippant

So the princess wants to meet a couple, she has before but it didnt go too well, i get that, anyway she wants to lose her virginity...she is in her late 20's never been penetrated before either in the pussy or the ass (including the use of dildos/vibrators), she has sucked cock once but found it distressing, tasting cum is a hard limit.   Maybe i should call her Anastasia instead! as long as she isnt expecting Mr Grey, coz she will be shit out of luck!

Honestly, of all the men i know, he would be one of the last i would think of for losing ones virginity to!..im laughing thinking about it as im typing...i must have a warped sense of humour.  Laughing even more when he said, i should consider she might run a mile.

She does have experience within the realms of bdsm so she isnt totally Miss innocent.

I get why he is so interested in her, he is meeting with her on Friday, so depending on how that goes, its looking a real possibility, its a new experience for him, a challenge, and he hasnt had a new experience for a long time, so i can understand the appeal of the situation to him.

i think from what he has said she is going to be hard work, and yet i also think i am...hard work..and i dont want to be.

I think she will be hard work in the respect of that she needs careful handling, she is unsure of her desires, then you have the zero experience of sex, and i think for a woman losing ones virginity is different than it is for men, its more of an emotional thing, perhaps?  its important to her that a woman is present for..hmm support, understanding, to care.

Then there is me, being hard work.

Its a whole new situation for me, one i have never thought about, well nor as he come to that, so i have my own 'issues', how do i feel about it all? i admit to being intrigued, im trying to be positive and open-minded, he has asked that of me, and i am trying.  But yes there are elements of it that im not happy about at all, but thats not relevant, i dont want to be difficult, so its better to focus on that its something he is keen for, especially after the texting incident, i dont want to fuck this up, and me being difficult could do so.

























18 comments:

  1. I mean this in the best possible way, 'do you see your concerns as you being difficult'?

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    1. thats ok i understand what you mean.

      My concerns are based around jealousy, being insecure, which although are very real worries that i have, i also know deep down, i have no need to feel that way.

      But it is something i struggle with, a lot, it is perhaps a fear of the unknown, because i could well enjoy it, but then i could also detest it, fantasising about seeing him fuck another woman is one thing, facing the reality of it....im really having trouble with.

      you got me pondering on this now lol

      x

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  2. I don't know if I could handle this situation. I truly look up to you. You have so much class. I'm in awe!

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    1. Your kidding right lol

      Im not handling it, im trying to, but im not.

      its a difficult one.

      x

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    2. I would have flipped out immediately that I would have needed punishment or released. So, you are handling it way better than I would have. I'm here to listen.

      Jealousy is a huge roadblock with a 3rd for me. It's one of the top 3 issues. I can't get past it. He says He won't touch her. Is not what He is looking for with it. I know me, if she tries to touch Him or He gets too in the moment, I'll freak out to the point I'll walk away - for good, right after I cut her!

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    3. Oh i hear you, im torn between wanting to give him this pleasure, but at the same time thinking i want to tear her hair out....which i dont think is the support and understanding she would be looking for lol

      Jealousy is a big issue, and understandably so, i constantly need re-assurance of how he feels about me, that no one else is a threat etc...and although deep down i know this to be true....doesnt stop the feelings.

      x

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  3. You're not being hard work or difficult, you're thinking through the ramifications. Quite natural.
    Oh yeah, I'm shocked, only because I can't understand why a virgin lesbian wants a man to take her virginity. Does she want to enjoy it?

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    1. im so glad that you said this....because thats what im thinking!

      its apparently something she wants to explore, slowly, she says she doesnt want it to be lovemaking, she wants to be fucked.

      From a female point of view i dont think when it comes down to it she will feel that way...its a big thing....no pun intended lol

      x

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    2. I'm with DelFonte here. What does she want out of this? And I guess that leads to my 'why you guys' question? No offense, obviously, but is this really the best environment for her to 'experience' something like that? Fucked or not.

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    3. lol at the lack of pun - I get wanting to be fucked, but surely she'll be turned on by a woman with a strap-on or a dildo, otherwise, she losing her virginity to a fantasy and it could be completely a bad experience, no offence intended towards your Master, but is it really what she wants? I hope she does SLOWLY explore the idea, because you get to lose your virginity just the once!

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    4. Yeah, mouse is with DelFonte, why would a virgin lesbian want to be fucked by a man? Unless she's thinking she might be bisexual, not sure where this end.

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    5. yep, hence why i have my reservations....because well a lesbian is just that a lesbian...i get perhaps wanting to explore but i think this might be a fantasy for her that is best left as fantasy.....i have suggested starting with a dildo.

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  4. I gotta echo a few of the concerns here in the comments...bringing in a "third", for short or long term, even just a one night stand, can have serious and far-reaching ramifications on a relationship, especially if one partner isn't 100% on board, and it sounds like you're not and that's something he really needs to take seriously. Your concerns aren't you being "difficult", or "silly" and you really shouldn't feel bad or be made to feel bad about it.

    He's pushing you up against something you really aren't sure you want to do or are ready to open up your relationship to, and with good reason. My experiences with "open" or "poly" relationships have been pretty overwhelmingly negative and damaging to the main relationship. He needs to think long and hard about whether he's willing to risk the relationship with you he's got over the instant gratification of fucking someone new. I know you want very badly to be a "good sub" and not get in the way of him doing what he wants but fact is, if you're not completely ok with the idea, it's going to cause problems.

    Also, for this particular instance, something doesn't jibe. This chic "wants to go slow" about losing her virginity, yet "she doesn't want lovemaking, she wants to be fucked"? Those two things seem at odds. Also, there's a better than average chance that if he is the one to take her virginity, she might form some sort of attachment with him, emotionally speaking. Has he vetted her to make sure she's not a drama bomb waiting for a place to go off?

    I can totally get why he'd be all fired up to "help" her with this situation. Red blooded dominant males, gotta love 'em, and I do. But seems like a bit more discussion ought to be had between you two to make sure him diving into that particular bit of quim won't come back on you both and do some damage to what otherwise seems like a beautiful relationship.

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  5. A agree with a lot of what your saying here, so wont argue with it.

    We have played with others before, so its not a completely new thing, it is something i struggle with but yet i have enjoyed the times we have played with others (bar one couple)....i am a complete stress head, it is my insecurities, i know our relationship is secure, been together long enough.

    Yes i do have my reservations about the princess, the same concerns you have, and thats why he is meeting with her, to get a better 'feel' of what she wants expects.

    I think should we do go ahead it will involve a lot of communication, especially with her, because im inclined to think she has this fantasy of what she wants....but reality is another matter..im willing to bet that when push comes to shove she will back out.

    x

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  6. WOW, this is really a complicated situation. I just want to wish you the best of luck in dealing with this and hope you have a lot of communication with both of them about what the expectations are before you go ahead.

    FD

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    1. Yes, i think it is too, but will see how things pan out

      thanks FD

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  7. tori ..darlin' why don't you text her ;)..tehehe (too soon?)

    :)) L

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    1. lmao, literally

      love your humour.....yeah too soon lol

      x

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