"Im sorry this is slightly more than one question. Having been together for as long as you have, how do you keep it going? keep things fresh? does it not get boring old, the kink, the control? Do you have times of feeling that your fed up of submitting and he of dominating and would be happy to be just vanilla?"
The first thing that came to mind when reading this, is this
It would be like saying to a happy content vanilla couple
"hey, i know your happy and all that, been together a long time, but really you should put some kink into your life, try a bit of domination and submission, i know it doesnt interest you at all, but it must get boring and old being so vanilla, arnt you fed up of it"
As with all relationships, regardless of whether they be within the realms of ttwd or vanilla, you both have to work at it, not that im saying it should be hard work, but i think its easy to slip into being complacent, and end up with that feeling of being stuck in a rut, if the effort is not put in, on both sides.
No, the kink and control it does not get boring or old, or i have certainly not felt that, if anything it just gets better, i love being tied up and given a good caning today as much as i did 10 years ago, even more so. The control, yes sometimes i get periods of "i dont want to" because its not always easy or it might be simply that i dont feel like it, but thats just too bad, the man has the patience of a saint at times, i would have probably throttled myself by now!
Nor do i have times of feeling fed up of submitting, its the way i am, one cannot change their basic nature, no matter how much they might want to, again like i said above, not always easy, for the same reasons. In respect of Master pretty much the same, even to the point its not always easy, its a responsibility owning another, and i know i can be un-necessarily difficult.
So to conclude, just being vanilla is not an option, not that in anyway i think ttwd is better at all, but im sorry if its a cop-out answer but its just the way we are....and even through the difficult times, i wouldnt change a thing....ok perhaps being allowed more orgasms!