Collaredmom asked http://chasingmechasingyou.blogspot.co.uk/2015/03/the-weight-of-weight.html?zx=469c16e39c8feb9c
"you said submitting is part of your nature. Do you believe that some people are born submissive and/or dominant? I have read some of the arguments, for both sides, I was just curious what you thought. I'm intrigued by those who call Kink a sexual orientation. But I am not sure I agree with them."
I think some people are born with the nature of having submissive/dominant traits but that does not automatically mean they could or would want to be submissive or dominant in the context of being in a D/s relationship.
When i said about submitting being part of my nature, i think its more it comes easily to me for the most part, i like being instructed, dominated, i feel safe and secure in having a structured, controlled environment, where i know whats acceptable and what isnt. Submitting to him just feels right, being his slave is the real me, not the 'me' other people see, its a sense of this is how its meant to be, how im meant to be.
Thats not to say it always comes easily, it doesnt, have enough blog posts to demonstrate that lol, but when i do have times i struggle in respect of anything, with careful handling or a harsh reality check depending on the situation will depend on how he handles me,(he never has shouted at me or argued), i always acquiesce willingly in the end ...driven by the need i have to want to please him, and thats what makes me happy in the long run.
Imo being submissive or dominant is not what i consider a kink.
Kink itself being a sexual orientation, having looked up dictionary definitions...'a person's sexual orientation is defined by the gender to which he or she is sexually attracted' so that inclines me to want to say no, however one can be sexually attracted to certain acts, kinky acts.
S/m for example provides me with sexual gratification on its own, i dont need sex to be a part of it to be satisfied, im sexually attracted to s/m, as i am with other kinks.
People seek out kinky activities for sexual purposes, there need not necessarily be a relationship with the person who they are getting their kink from, its the kink itself that is what they are seeking, that they are sexually attracted to.
So im on the fence on that one.