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reactance... psychological terms
reactance... psychological terms
'Reactance is a motivational reaction to offers, persons, rules, or regulations that threaten or eliminate specific freedoms. Reactance occurs when a person feels that someone or something is taking away his or her choices or limiting the range of alternatives'
There are many, many things we take for granted in life, freedoms that once people fought hard for, within enslavement some of these freedoms may well be curtailed, depending on what these are, how important they are, will depend on whether there is any reactance, and if there is, the level of reactance.
For example..
If he was to say "you can no longer eat cheese sandwiches" ok, so i like cheese sandwiches but not enough that im bothered by this, so i shrug it off, no reactance because it means little to me.
However if he was to say
"I dont want you blogging anymore" im going to be upset, angry, i like blogging, a lot, it means a lot to me so im going to react, strongly, he is taking away a freedom, which is his right to do so within our dynamic, but because its so important to me, i would struggle with it, and ergo there will be reactance.
So, reactance can also apply to situations, taking away choice, limiting the range of alternatives.
How reactance manifests itself will vary, dependent on how strongly one feels about what they are being denied, or indeed whats being asked, me i tend to get difficult, put obstacles in the way, because im not handling it well. It does settle down after a while, after adjusting, there does become an acceptance, a realisation that this is how its going to be like it or not.
When i get to that point of acceptance, then it can be reasonably discussed, without the 'drama', because im able to adapt to having no choice or a limited range of alternatives, and things are back to flowing as they should be.
Having choice, or rather being given a choice is something i have learnt to appreciate, because he can and will remove it at will, but there are many things i dont have a choice or say in at all.
It is i suppose what brings about struggles, because confronted with having choice removed, can be a scary prospective, when there is no alternative but to submit to what has been asked, especially if its something one struggles with.
But it does get easier with time.
There are many, many things we take for granted in life, freedoms that once people fought hard for, within enslavement some of these freedoms may well be curtailed, depending on what these are, how important they are, will depend on whether there is any reactance, and if there is, the level of reactance.
For example..
If he was to say "you can no longer eat cheese sandwiches" ok, so i like cheese sandwiches but not enough that im bothered by this, so i shrug it off, no reactance because it means little to me.
However if he was to say
"I dont want you blogging anymore" im going to be upset, angry, i like blogging, a lot, it means a lot to me so im going to react, strongly, he is taking away a freedom, which is his right to do so within our dynamic, but because its so important to me, i would struggle with it, and ergo there will be reactance.
So, reactance can also apply to situations, taking away choice, limiting the range of alternatives.
How reactance manifests itself will vary, dependent on how strongly one feels about what they are being denied, or indeed whats being asked, me i tend to get difficult, put obstacles in the way, because im not handling it well. It does settle down after a while, after adjusting, there does become an acceptance, a realisation that this is how its going to be like it or not.
When i get to that point of acceptance, then it can be reasonably discussed, without the 'drama', because im able to adapt to having no choice or a limited range of alternatives, and things are back to flowing as they should be.
Having choice, or rather being given a choice is something i have learnt to appreciate, because he can and will remove it at will, but there are many things i dont have a choice or say in at all.
It is i suppose what brings about struggles, because confronted with having choice removed, can be a scary prospective, when there is no alternative but to submit to what has been asked, especially if its something one struggles with.
But it does get easier with time.
interesting post. i always enjoy reading here.
ReplyDeleteThank you very much, i appreciate that
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ps, i went to go follow your blog, but it wont let me follow, thats been happening a lot around here, just getting 'try again later' so i will lol
Deletehttp://www.enslavement.org.uk/essays There is a great piece here called reactance to slavery. Well worth a read, it splits it all done nicely, Nice Anon Xx
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DeleteOh yes, i know that site, its sister site InformedConsent, is where i 'met' my Master lol, its very interesting and i would recommend it to people to check out.
I love the phsycological aspects of all of this, i think its my need to understand what makes us the way we are etc
nice to see you as always
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Great and interesting post Tori, once again you got me pondering, which is a good thing lol.
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Roz
thanks Roz
Deletepondering is always a good thing, its over doing it that can be a problem lol
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