His slut said http://thoughtsfromhisslut.blogspot.co.uk/2015/03/i-want-to-cum-to-it.html
"I don't often liked being called kinky. I guess because I don't understand why what I enjoy needs to be defined as such an 'outcasted' thing. Why such a difference between kink and vanilla? Your thoughts on why labels between the 'kink' world and 'vanilla' world?"
Im not sure i would use the term outcasted, if anything kink has become more acceptable as of late, perhaps due to the FSOG phenomenon its more acceptable than its ever been, people talk about it more, its not really a taboo like it used to be....of course depends on the kink! if anything its fashionable.
I think the difference is simply a matter of clarifying distinctions between those that are kinky and those that are not, but there are levels of kinkiness, but mostly what are we defining as kinky?
a dictionary definition
'unconventional sexual preferences or behaviour, fetishism, sadomasochism, or the like'
on the flip side how do we define vanilla from a bdsm point of view? have no dictionary definition so its just my opinion...
"those that have no inclination for kink, as defined above in dictionary definition"
I should say, that for me when i use the term vanilla it is not in any way meant as derogatory, its simply a term used for those that are not kinky.
Labels, love them or hate them, nevertheless they have their uses, they do provide i think a sense of clarity, even within the realms of ttwd, for example i could say..
"i enjoy ttwd" which is fine, but it doesnt tell you much, or i could say
"im a slave in a tpe dynamic" which says a lot more, simply by adding labels, it gives clarity (the only flaw with this logic is people may have different definitions of what these labels mean, but lets not over complicate it lol)
does that make sense though?