A question from collared mum http://chasingmechasingyou.blogspot.co.uk/2015/03/question-and-answer-round-2.html?zx=e2a74921c6d92f09
"How did you and Bossman get into your Master/slave dynamic? Did you start in a 'regular' D/s and escalate?
We started as D/s, from the beginning, we have never been vanilla in our relationship having met through a bdsm website, quickly moving to real time. I suppose one has to question what the difference between D/s and M/s is? i can only give my personal opinion on this.
Its a subtle difference i think but yet being contradictory its also a big difference, for me being his slave is not being how i imagined/thought and even wanted it to be, our M/s is based on how he wants it, and therefore his expectation of how his slave should be, which yes came into conflict with my ideas etc...tough!
Initially i had more of an input in our relationship, i could say no, there was not the extent of control over me then that he has now, but he exerted more as we went on, it just became apparent within a year maybe a bit longer that i needed more, he wanted more.
We discussed it, talked about expectations from both sides, and so the new journey began, i think enslavement in its entirety is a gradual progress, rather than waking up one morning with the "yay im a slave" train of thought, one needs to be realistic in their expectations of each other.
As his slave, its really pretty simple, to be obedient, pleasing and respectful, well it should be pretty simple...sometimes i fail, but mostly, and i dont give myself enough credit, i do bloody well lol, coz he is very demanding on what he expects from me.
If i was forced to put a label on our relationship i would define it as Owner and property and sometimes i need the reminder of that, especially if things go off kilter, which it can do. I thrive on being strictly controlled, even though sometimes i try to fight it, its those times that i need it the most.
For me slavery is less about the physical aspects and more about the mental, adapting to the mindset of being focused only on pleasing him, overcoming my own worries, fears etc and just obeying without thought.
All, everything i am, is his, it can be difficult at times, but i wouldnt want it any other way, im of the mind that if it all comes to easily all the time then i wouldnt be being pushed enough, and i want/need to be to, to better myself and for him.