Friday 1 March 2013

The pleasure of denial

Fiona wrote a post on orgasm denial http://sirqandme.blogspot.co.uk/2013/02/my-wiring-and-orgasm-denial.html and it was interesting in reading the responses and for many less orgasms equates to wanting less and im deducing feeling like sex less?, i think im in the minority in that orgasm denial plays a part in our dynamic.

For me its about the control, he owns me and therefore my body, he decides when and if i get pleasure in the form of sexual release,  orgasm control isnt just about being deprived full stop, it can mean being teased for a time, being brought to the edge continuously and denied, it makes me wild, i buck and scream, beg for release, the intensity of it leaves me exhausted, sweaty and so desperate and at his mercy.....ahh but when release is given its damn well better than the usual orgasms.

Sometimes i do get denied for longer periods of times, the longest i have been denied is approx. 2 months it was punishment for bringing myself to orgasm without permission (he does like making a punishment fit the crime!) and it was horrid.  But it was horrid because it was a punishment, it was a harsh way of putting me in my place, a reminder that my body is not mine to do as i like.

There have been other times its been long periods (weeks) simply because its pleased him to keep me wanting, and thats the effect it has on me rather than making me lose interest it feeds my desire, and mentally i get off on the control.  That is my biggest turn on..being controlled.

However its not always like that, its just when the mood strikes him, more often than not he enjoys having me orgasm, sometimes it goes completely the other way and im over stimulated and being brought to orgasm over and over again can sound really great...but it can also be painful and im begging for no more.

Most importantly for me in respect of orgasm control, whatever form it might take is that it excites me, that my pleasure is controlled by him and thats a huge aphrodisiac.















12 comments:

  1. We are in the same boat Tori, it turns me on to have orgasms controlled. The minute they are denied is the minute the desperation kicks in and its all one can think about. Luckily it has never been very long before permission is granted, maybe a week. Gosh two months would be horrible but it was probably really intense when it finally happened.

    The longer we go on the more the control is what turns me on.

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    1. Hi dancing

      the 2 months was horrible but it taught me a lesson, it made me reflect a lot.

      Control is the ultimate turn on for me, more so than anything else.

      x

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  2. Thank you tori. I imagine that the control is a huge turn on for you.

    And, thank you dancinbarez for your comment as well.

    Hug,
    joey

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  3. this is interesting. its not something we do but i dont think its something i would like. its bad enough as it is with the night shift that he works...we dont have a lot of time for sex so sometimes during the week he comes home, wakes me and just "takes ne" for his pleasure and no thought to mine....im not sure whether this is intentional or not as a HOH (as opposed to a selfish male) and its not something ive ask him...if its for his pleasure as HOH ill have no objection...if its the other..well thats another story

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    1. hi kiwi

      Its not something i ever thought i would want let alone enjoy but its just the fact that he can and will control my pleasure that does it for me and because it pleases him sometimes to deny me that in itself gives me pleasure.

      x

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  4. My Master enjoys my O's too much to deny them for very long. Sometimes I have been on a no touching/masterbating/orgasm restriction for several days/weeks. But that is just a restriction against doing it on my own. When we are having sex he makes me orgasm on command many times. I really don't enjoy denial at all, but do enjoy the control/ forced orgasm.

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    1. I understand how it does not appeal to everyone, it didnt for me once, but i just love his control over me and that i can endure denial for his pleasure.

      x

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  5. When I was with Sir he tried orgasm control with me, it did not work as well as he planed. Through out the years I have developed an amazing ability to hold back to the point where it takes a lot to get me to orgasm (one of my control issues). So he ended up going opposite on me, and ordering me to give myself the Big O as many times as I could, knowing my will to please him was stronger than holding back, just because I have the ability to do so.

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    1. Hi Anna

      Its interesting how we are all so different, i find it easy to orgasm..too damn easy sometimes so its been a difficult journey learning orgasm control..i dont always enjoy it because well..who doesnt like having orgasms lol

      x

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  6. I've had a dom use orgasm control with me.. not always good as it just makes me focus with huge intensity ONLY on the O. Nothing else.
    Now I have no controls outside of my own time on them.. and it is much more fun. I don't have to ask .. I'm home free on this one. I tell him about them usually and he is pleased with that.
    I feel very lucky!

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    1. I get that....i feel very lucky that he chooses to exercise his control over my orgasms and im so used to it i wouldnt want to have free will over them...its very interesting what works for some wont with others!

      x

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