Fiona wrote a post on orgasm denial http://sirqandme.blogspot.co.uk/2013/02/my-wiring-and-orgasm-denial.html and it was interesting in reading the responses and for many less orgasms equates to wanting less and im deducing feeling like sex less?, i think im in the minority in that orgasm denial plays a part in our dynamic.
For me its about the control, he owns me and therefore my body, he decides when and if i get pleasure in the form of sexual release, orgasm control isnt just about being deprived full stop, it can mean being teased for a time, being brought to the edge continuously and denied, it makes me wild, i buck and scream, beg for release, the intensity of it leaves me exhausted, sweaty and so desperate and at his mercy.....ahh but when release is given its damn well better than the usual orgasms.
Sometimes i do get denied for longer periods of times, the longest i have been denied is approx. 2 months it was punishment for bringing myself to orgasm without permission (he does like making a punishment fit the crime!) and it was horrid. But it was horrid because it was a punishment, it was a harsh way of putting me in my place, a reminder that my body is not mine to do as i like.
There have been other times its been long periods (weeks) simply because its pleased him to keep me wanting, and thats the effect it has on me rather than making me lose interest it feeds my desire, and mentally i get off on the control. That is my biggest turn on..being controlled.
However its not always like that, its just when the mood strikes him, more often than not he enjoys having me orgasm, sometimes it goes completely the other way and im over stimulated and being brought to orgasm over and over again can sound really great...but it can also be painful and im begging for no more.
Most importantly for me in respect of orgasm control, whatever form it might take is that it excites me, that my pleasure is controlled by him and thats a huge aphrodisiac.