"As a vanilla, who's interested in the lifestyle I wander how you manage a Master/slave relationship with kids in the house, especially young children who demand a lot of time and give you no privacy. I'm also wandering if you have many specific rules and what they are (if you don't mind sharing) or a few general rules dealing with respect, safety etc. Thanks"
There are many, many couples that are M/s or practise ttwd in general with a family in the house, so its doable, but thats not what your asking is it lol..how
Well for starters with my situation, my children are from a previous relationship, my Master has no children of his own, mine are aged 12 and 17 so not young children either.
I think its mostly about being sensible, and being cautious about what they are exposed to, but realistically, especially when they are older they are more aware than what one may think, of what is happening around them. But the advantage of them being older, if they are picking up on something that concerns them or they are just curious about, then they know its up for discussion if they want, although i would be as sensitive as i could be about what information i gave, i would always be honest with them.
But one only has to mention sex, and well..no kid usually wants to hear about their mum/dads sex life.....because of course im old (38) and shouldnt even be having sex, let alone enjoy it!
Like any relationship with children, regardless of whether its ttwd or not, managing time together and privacy can be a hurdle at times, but its important to make time, we try to organise a weekend every month or so where we have it to ourselves, kids with their dad usually, so we get some well needed us time.
I have a lot of specific rules, but mostly its about being pleasing and obedient, but some that pertain to respect and safety are..
I should always speak to him with respect, not allowing my temper/emotions to get the better of me
I am expected to ask for something i might like, (there are exceptions, for example i am not allowed to ask if i may masturbate/orgasm) and if i receive a "no" im to accept that with grace (im still working on that lol) , a "no" is final, however a "perhaps" or "maybe" allows room for begging...he likes begging! especially if i offer myself up to something i dislike and beg him to subject me to it
I address him as Sir or Master at all times when appropriate (i have actually never addressed him with his real name), serves to remind me that he is not a partner, lover or friend, although he is all of those he is my Owner first and foremost
I am to inform him if im not feeling well in any way
We dont use a safeword, if something is wrong that shouldnt be, i just say what that is, as a point of note in case it comes up, if im gagged/in subspace, it means he is that extra attentive, ie checking in with me often that all is ok.
Thanks for the questions.