Thursday, 25 September 2014

Kinky things done

* Any unexpected way kink has improved your life?

Im reluctant to say its improved my life, its added to it, more than anything, i enjoy exploring different elements of kink, it allows me for the most part to escape from the outside world, and i feel safe in this bubble with him.

* Talk about something within BDSM/kink that your curious about/dont understand?

adult babies, not curious about, just dont understand it, however that is not to be interpreted as judging, get enough of that myself, also not to be confused with daddy dom/little girl kink.... its when people act, dress, and are treated as babies.....a total turn off for me..i survived raising my own babies, no inclination to want to be one myself, been there done that for real.......although i am prone to throw the odd tantrum from time to time!

* Favourite BDSM related book (fiction or non-fiction)?

I discovered Kitty Thomas a couple of years ago, what i like about her books although they are kink orientated, they are well written, and balanced, one of hers in particular Comfort Food i love because she explores the interaction between Dominant and submissive in a more psychological way, rather than it being just about the physical.....and it appeals to my love of captivity/being caged.

I stay away from non-fiction books about kink/bdsm, read one that was enough.

*  What do you think is important in keeping a BDSM relationship healthy, how does it differ from a vanilla relationship?

Lots of communication, it doesnt need to be all serious, have fun with it.

How does it differ?  umm i would have thought thats obvious, i imagine in a vanilla relationship, a woman would object to having her face slapped hard and then forced to her knees and choked on cock for example lol

*  Since you first developed an interest in kink/BDSM, have your interests/perspectives changed?

gosh yes.  im more open-minded, i engage in things i never ever thought i would, let alone enjoy them, when i got involved with the bossman and we discussed limits, soft and hard, he would mention things (things i had not even considered) and there was so much i was like "no way"...umm now those things i love....ok, not all of them, but i do them.

*  What qualities do you look for in a partner?...im assuming this is related to kink wise?

when i was looking..

Experienced dominant

Sadist

Older than me, by at least 10 years preferably (hey, i like the older man lol)

*  How open are you about your kinks?

Im not, well, not in the sense of being out about it in the vanilla realm, here, as in blogger, im fairly open, somethings im more comfortable talking about than others.

*  What's your opinion on online BDSM play?

if thats what does it for people then fair enough, but nothing beats hands on, self inflicting pain on myself for another, even under their direction, over a pc screen just wouldnt be enough, but i appreciate for some people in the flesh is not possible

* Do your non-kink interests ever find their way into your kinky activities?, if so, how?

Only thing that comes to mind is that we both enjoy going for walks, and if the mood takes him and its safe to do so, i might get a beating in the woods, got caught once giving him a blowjob in a park....was mortified!

*  How do you dress for kink/BDSM play?  What significance does your attire have to you?

If its in the dungeon then generally he wants me ready, naked, occasionally he will request lingerie but not very often, elsewhere ie the bedroom then he does like me in lingerie, stockings, suspender belt, basque etc.

I love the man in a suit, for me it shouts, confidence, authority....and its just hot!  Dont do the whole fetish wear thing, the closest Master gets to leather is when he is out on his motorbike.

Attire doesnt really hold any significance, other than if im told to dress up for him, in the way i know he likes, i know im in for a good time lol

*  Do you have a BDSM title?  eg. Master, Mistress, pig, princess, whore, what are your opinions of the use of titles in general?

In the context of being in a scene, he tends to call me his bitch, his slut, outside of a scene he usually calls me by my given name, i would not like to be referred to as bitch, slut etc all the time, it just wouldnt sit right with me, he does on occasion, but in the respect of i know its usually a sign its playtime.

He is Master, Sir or Bossman to me all the time, and i like this, i like that for me it keeps me grounded, and i like the inequality it demonstrates in our relationship....i dont want to be his equal.

In general, i dont have a problem with titles, although i would not address another dominant as Master, i would not have a problem with calling them Sir.

*  Whatever kink/BDSM related thing you want to write about?

Brussel sprouts should be a universal hard limit! no one should ever have to have them on their plate unless they are asked for......  in fact i think i should campaign to make it so.

yay, done....im so chuffed i got through this

Yep getting to the comments on previous posts, later this evening.









11 comments:

  1. utterly agree with you about brussel sprouts *shudder*

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    1. so you wanna join my campaign then lol

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  2. I actually like Brussels sprouts! My Sir HATES them!

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  3. What is one thing you miss doing that you used to do before?

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    1. im assuming you mean before i got with him?

      this is a difficult one because there isnt just one thing all the time, i get pangs of wishing i could do something that i want at different times, but its not always the same thing.

      im sorry thats not a great answer, but there just isnt anything.

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  4. I enjoyed your answers! I'll have your Brussels sprouts, I like them as long as they are not overcooked.

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    1. i shall send them over in the future lol

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  5. Loved your answers, especially the part about how vanilla differs. LOL

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    1. thanks..well it was kind of a silly question really i thought lol

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  6. lmao @ the brussell sprouts! I'll sign the petition.
    Any chance of getting belly buttons and nose added to that hard limit campaign...?

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