Sunday 15 April 2012

Before the internet

How did dominants, submissives, those into bdsm etc connect before the internet?  I wandered this after my daughters display of horror after talking to her about my childhood and that i didnt have the internet when i was her age or mobile phones come to that...so anyway yes it got me thinking how did they connect?

My Master first discovered this lifestyle when he was at university so aged about 17 i think and he is 50 now so yes well there was definitly no internet then umm was there even computers!  he got involved with a women (i seem to recall he said she was quite a bit older than him but i might be mistaken) and she opened his eyes to it all.  Im going to have to interrogate him about back then a bit more, he says that it was very much word of mouth, knowing the right people in the know, knowing where to go...it all seems a bit vague to me.  He has travelled to a fair few countries in the past on business and has had 'experiences' in some of them, i mean how do you know where to go or what is the right thing to say to the right people? 

Of course now we have the internet which makes bdsm and meeting people more accessible, for people like myself it was where i discovered this whole lifestyle and helped me to realise that im not abnormal.  Its just so different now i guess besides from the internet you have munches, clubs etc that are more accessible for those that have an interest and want to learn more....but i do wander if just because its easier now does that make it necessarily better?  i dont know and i cant say whether it was better then or now.

So if there are any 'mature' readers reading this who were in the lifestyle pre internet i would love to hear your opinions.

9 comments:

  1. Good topic for a post and I look forward to others stories.

    Love,
    Kitty

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  2. i have often wondered about that myself, we are so lucky to live in the time that we do.

    blossom x

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  3. Well one way was was discreetly worded ads in tiny little magazines that you could only find in seedy little sex shops... and you had to know where to find those as well. Otherwise it was referrals and word of mouth, usually to private parties. It was a very self contained world.

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  4. It is much better now. I had all these fantasies in the pre Internet days and thought I must be a bit strange. Then the book "The Story of O'' came out. And then a magazine called "Variations'' printed fetish stories and then the the VCR made it possible to see BDSM videos and I realized I wasn't alone in my fantasies. But I envy young people today who can go on the Internet and find like minded people.

    FD

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  5. Alpha showed mouse a book with pictures...while it was, at that moment a turn off...the images stuck. A couple weeks later, mouse went back to ask questions...that was waaaay before the Internet...heck we didn't even have electronic mail yet at work...

    We had typewriters...and a big fancy word processor thing...that was huge and no one wanted to use....

    Hugs,
    mouse

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  6. hi ya kitty and blossom

    i do find it fascniating how people discover this lifestyle and more so before it became so accessable.

    tori x

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  7. Thankyou Master's piece

    I hadnt thought of that idea, i would imagine it was that much difficult back then. Now sex shops are not seen as seedy well i have been to a few that are lol but here in the uk we have them on the high street.

    tori x

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  8. hi FD

    Yes i think your right we are lucky today that its not so hidden, the information and contact is more easily attainable.

    thanks for your comment.

    tori xx

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  9. hi mouse

    i bet it was a bit of a shock? i know i found it all bit scary when i first came accross images online...heck i find some scary even now lol

    tori xx

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