Thursday 21 June 2012

Nothing nice to say?...say nothing

I was reading a post that a slave had made on a uk bdsm site which i used to contribute to but no longer do, for the reason being that in many ways it was like being back at school, the cliche groups, the bitching, my school days are long gone and i have no wish to re-visit them! but i got to know some nice people so i still occassionally check back in and those i got to know and like i keep in contact with via im and other mediums.

Anyway as i was reading this post i started cringing my thoughts being "you poor cow you are going to be ripped to shreds"  and she was and i felt sorry for her, part of me wanted to comment not because i necessarily agreed with some of what she had written but to reason and debate the logic of some of the outright nasty comments that had been made already...but for the reasons already given and also i dont need nor want the drama i didnt.

So the post it was an open declaration of love for her Master which is nice, but it went on...i would do anything he asked, commit murder he if wanted, i love him more than my own son...the Master is married to someone else who is unaware of her existence.   So yeah there were a few elements for people to pick up on which they did and subsequently went in for the kill....understand why i was cringing ?

I get how its easy to carried away with these relationships most especially in the beginning and consumed by the intensity of it all, been there done that but no i have not got the t shirt, i dont know and can only assume that the post was made in one of those moments, without real thought put into what was being said and the repurcussions of it...add a bit of naivety and well can we say been there done that again.

What i did find bewildering was the majority if not all the nasty comments and some were vicous attacks were made from submissives and slaves, now of course we are all human heck i can be a bit of a bitch at times but it was the lack of compassion and understanding that took me aback.  We are not going to agree with everyone all of the time but it is possible to make constructive critisicm without the nastiness and if unable to do so simply dont comment at all...the comment i really wanted to make in response to all the vicous  nasty ones was "your Masters must be so proud of how you conduct yourselves" but im pretty sure the sarcasm would have gone straight over their heads.

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  1. That does sound like a pretty sad situation and yes your comment would have probably just brought on more nasty comments. I hope the girl is doing ok. I feel like we all need to watch out for eachother.

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    1. It is a sad situation and i felt for her i really did but there is no need for nastiness..a bit of compassion goes a long way.

      Yea i tend to stay out of dramas, sometimes they find me though lol

      tori xx

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  2. It's odd but when mouse hears things like that the only thing that jumps to mind is here is this poor creature, probably in the throws of the first blush of submission writing something just to please her Dom. Without thinking it through. Stuff like that speaks more about the top than it does her. Because he should reel in that kind of talk. He should correct that kind talk. Seriously, commit murder, Dom more important than her child??

    No, she's trying desperately to get his favor...and if he's the type that needs that kind of adulation, he's got more issues than she does. And mouse can assure, there's nothing worse than a Dominant with an inferiority complex.

    Hugs,
    mouse

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    1. I had not thought of it that way mouse now i feel even more sorrier for her, yes perhaps the dom bears some responsibility for letting this train of thought be allowed.

      something else for me to think about.

      tori x

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  3. I have never really understood what it is about the internet that seems to release people to say things they never would in real life.

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    1. Im wary myself of what i put out there because once its on the internet its there and no taking it back, it can be found.

      tori x

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