*i should say that if anyone does opt to email me, if we havent corresponded before then it tends to go to my bulk folder which i dont tend to check very often, which is how i missed these questions from a blogger that wished to remain anonymous.....again apologies, i wasnt ignoring you*
1) Reading the Bossman's answers I wandered how high your pain threshold is especially after reading this, I quote "when her body is bleeding from my cane or my whip"?
Its variable on many factors, which i know sounds evasive but it depends on the implement, my frame of mind at the time, part of body he is hurting.
For example, when im the right frame of mind, i love the cane and can take a severe caning where it will draw blood and it doesnt faze me at all, its the only implement that he has had to stop before i have wanted him to, purely because any more strokes could have the risk of causing permanent damage.
On the other side of the coin, when im not in a receptive mood, he could use the cane and less than a dozen strokes in i want it to stop, there have been occasions where if i havent been tied down i will move away..notably one time i locked myself in the bathroom to get away from him and the cane.
2) Is it mainly about your suffering that he enjoys? or is there some enjoyment for you as well?
Nope not mainly about my suffering. Perhaps i dont make it clear, coz i know im terrible for moaning about what i dont like etc, but more often than not its about mutual enjoyment, he enjoys hurting me and i enjoy getting hurt.
Gosh, im a giggler and its not uncommon for me to have fits of laughter when being hurt, and he is laid back about it, during play its the only time i can get away with calling him horrid names and he generally laughs, it encourages him, and i know that..
What enjoyment is there for me? i love the connection between us at these times, in many ways i find it more intimate than sex, i like seeing the desire and excitement in his eyes as he hurts me, we feed off one another, the more he sees me enjoying it the more it spurs him on.
Yes there are certainly times it is just about my suffering, i cant deny that he does really love it when i am genuinely suffering, and i really want it to stop, but he knows that i get off on enduring, not at the time but afterwards........he would not get any enjoyment from inflicting pain on anyone that did not enjoy it on any level, after all he wants me to want to come back for more.
3) How does he know when you have had enough?
Im going to add this to his questions to answer (which i will have to get on to him about) if you dont mind?
4) Is s&m the most important part of your dynamic?
No, it plays a big part in our relationship because as explained above we both do enjoy it, but actually we dont play that often, not in the extent of 'harder' scenes, my first 'love' is being controlled/dominated and still remains what is most important to me.
omg, im still try to play catch up!, i just wanted to get this one out because i feel guilty that i missed it...sorry!