Wednesday 5 March 2014

All about orgasm denial....yep just rub it in that im not getting any!

*well i certainly cant complain i have nothing to blog about!, i got enough material for at least another 5/6 posts, im really enjoying this, i know i said it before but im saying it again, its interesting reading other peoples questions, asking them, so if your not taking part....go on take the plunge.....whats the worst you could be asked?...second thought dont answer that!*

From Misty

How does orgasm denial make you feel?  I know you said that you are constantly aroused but is there more than that?  Im wandering about emotional feelings.

From mc kitten

Orgasm denial.  Is this something you really wanted to do, or is it something that comes more from the Bossman?  How does it work - are there set periods where you don't get to cum, or is just down to his whim?  How do you feel about it?  Do you love it? hate it? or a bit of both?

Orgasm denial was introduced by the bossman originally as a punishment way back when we first got together, i was, and still am not allowed to touch myself intimately in any way without his permission (barring washing and that time of the month) and if i did then i was denied orgasms, usually for about a week.

I hated it, because well who doesnt like having an orgasm lol, eventually, longer than it really should have been i learnt my lesson and its been years since i have disobeyed in this way.

In the last couple of years he has taken to denying me for long periods of time, the longest as far as i can recall has been about 5 months, at the moment its been perhaps 8 weeks ish since i have climaxed.

Although there are not necessarily set patterns, i know that if he has a planned 'hard' session in mind (which he will set aside a date for, usually a weekend, arrange to get kids farmed out lol) then i know that im not going to be getting any orgasms until that date (minimum of 4/5 weeks beforehand)....he always allows me orgasms at these times, it helps in associating pain with pleasure..but thats a whole other issue.

Being denied was something i initially didnt like at all, certainly not when it was for long periods of time, but it ingrained into me that my pleasure is for him to decide, if i get it and how i get it, it reinforces the mindset of his pleasure comes before mine.

The added advantage, which neither of was expecting, well i know i didnt is it revved up my sex drive, which has never been high, i feel like sometimes im constantly aroused, on edge and i initiate sex more than i ever did before.

So now, although yes there are certainly times where im desperate to cum for the most part i enjoy the sense of need it gives me, its been long enough now that im ok with it because its made me more confident sexually how im finding hard to explain..i guess because i desire sex more because it sates me even without orgasm.

Plus, when i do get to cum its bloody great, and he usually gets multiple orgasms out of me.

Hope thats covered it.

17 comments:

  1. Thank you tori. Orgasm denial must really intensify the feeling before a long weekend of play.

    Hug,
    joey

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    1. it does joey, very much so, and it just adds to the whole experience in my mind.

      x

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  2. tori, it sucks right now but the end results are soooo goooood!!

    I don't like the fact I am on a schedule and sometimes i am not allowed until he says is a go.

    HUGS
    Aluv

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    1. it does suck at times, i agree but yes the end results...awesome!

      im not allowed to ask at all, and that took some getting used to.

      x

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  3. We've never experimented with orgasm denial. He's delayed orgasm by a short time but never completely denied it. I love that once again something you hated has become something that feeds you. Thanks for sharing

    hugs
    p

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    1. it does take some getting used to especially if one is used to having regular orgasms, but it does get easier over time.

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    1. That's very interesting that denial vamps your sex drive. My sex drive has always been quite high with Master...i am not only NOT denied orgasms but encouraged to have them (we currently live on separate continents). If i do have one (or two or three), i am to tell him as soon as possible. This, i find, makes me want to have them even more. i am restricted leading up to a visit, but other than that they are a common occurrence. i do understand that your pleasure is up to him...i guess if Master told me to refrain, i would obey. Without o's i get quite grumpy! (i maybe spolied :-/) Thanks for sharing x

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    2. for me i simply love that its another element of being controlled, it reinforces that he owns me, my body and how it is used...and its not for everyone, heck i never would of thought it would be for me lol

      i did used to get grumpy but he wouldnt tolerate that, its not about me, it was difficult but yeah im adjusted to it now, and i honestly dont think i would want to go back to being allowed to have them as and when i feel like it.

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  5. Since he has denied you for several weeks, perhaps there is something around the corner coming your way, and I don't just mean an orgasm!

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  6. Tori,

    I adore this post so much because I love how you spoke about it all :)

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    1. thank you Bleuame

      I think sometimes i tell too much!

      x

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  7. I see why you like it, though I can't imagine going five months! It is nice to have that constant arousal, it definitely makes me more pliable lol

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    1. Yes pliable!!!! that is it

      it makes me feel more desirable as well, and i cant really explain why that is.

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  8. gosh, five months is hard core! Its so fascinating how it is when the dom's introduced it...In my case, I was the one who wanted it, which makes it hard sometimes because it's more me that polices it than him, sort of *sigh*

    How did he know when you broke the no-touch rule initially? Did you find yourself unable to lie or did he just seem to know?

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  9. wow, i dont think it would have been something i would have brought up myself, i liked masturbating lol

    I would tell him, even though he would probably never have known, i couldnt hold back from him.

    x

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