We were talking to a female pro-dom (Mrs A) the other day and she really is a lovely lady and as well as being a pro she is also dominant in her personal life and her partner is a male sub. The conversation turned to talking about natural subs and doms and our natural behaviours and instincts, she stated as an example that if the bossman was to attempt to dominate her it would make her defensive and if she did agree to submit it would be as roleplaying she wouldnt have any inner submissive feelings it would simply be robotic and would do nothing for her as she is not naturally submissive. Whereas for me it comes naturally she stated!!! really thats news to me.
Im not sure that i like the term natural submissive..im going to ponder on that..a blog post of its own i think.
I have to add as a sidenote here that this scenario she mentioned got me turned on, i would love to watch him dominate a dominant woman and i think (i shall have to ask him) it would appeal to him, i know he has said before that he has found it satisfying and arousing to dominate a strong willed woman, one that isnt naturally submissive..im guessing its the challenge?
Over the years we have spoken about me dominating another femsub and its never appealed to me, i just couldnt see myself doing it, i could try but i think its more than likely i would find it hilariously funny, he also would like to see me submit to a femdom and i have always been dead against that as well. I think i would be the same as what Mrs A said about herself submitting to a dominant, i would be going through the motions of submitting but it would be roleplay rather than me actively being submissive, it wouldnt be natural to me, it holds no appeal.
But im thinking about it, submitting for a set period of time to a femdom that is, the bossman says it would be a very different experience for me and he thinks i would enjoy it so im curious and this is new for me i have always been adamant that its something i really dont want to do, im wandering about the differences between submitting to him and submitting to a women for a scene, how would it feel etc
I think a large part of my problem is that i have spent years being adamant that i wouldnt like it so i have convinced myself i dont like it and i would be determined not to enjoy it, he knows i do this mostly when its things that im too scared to admit appeal to me, im wary of being taken out my comfort zone of knowing what i like and dont..and bar one occassion when i have been pushed out of my comfort zone at his insisence i have enjoyed it...and he had said i would, so perhaps i just need to let go that bit more.