We were talking to a female pro-dom (Mrs A) the other day and she really is a lovely lady and as well as being a pro she is also dominant in her personal life and her partner is a male sub. The conversation turned to talking about natural subs and doms and our natural behaviours and instincts, she stated as an example that if the bossman was to attempt to dominate her it would make her defensive and if she did agree to submit it would be as roleplaying she wouldnt have any inner submissive feelings it would simply be robotic and would do nothing for her as she is not naturally submissive. Whereas for me it comes naturally she stated!!! really thats news to me.
Im not sure that i like the term natural submissive..im going to ponder on that..a blog post of its own i think.
I have to add as a sidenote here that this scenario she mentioned got me turned on, i would love to watch him dominate a dominant woman and i think (i shall have to ask him) it would appeal to him, i know he has said before that he has found it satisfying and arousing to dominate a strong willed woman, one that isnt naturally submissive..im guessing its the challenge?
Over the years we have spoken about me dominating another femsub and its never appealed to me, i just couldnt see myself doing it, i could try but i think its more than likely i would find it hilariously funny, he also would like to see me submit to a femdom and i have always been dead against that as well. I think i would be the same as what Mrs A said about herself submitting to a dominant, i would be going through the motions of submitting but it would be roleplay rather than me actively being submissive, it wouldnt be natural to me, it holds no appeal.
But im thinking about it, submitting for a set period of time to a femdom that is, the bossman says it would be a very different experience for me and he thinks i would enjoy it so im curious and this is new for me i have always been adamant that its something i really dont want to do, im wandering about the differences between submitting to him and submitting to a women for a scene, how would it feel etc
I think a large part of my problem is that i have spent years being adamant that i wouldnt like it so i have convinced myself i dont like it and i would be determined not to enjoy it, he knows i do this mostly when its things that im too scared to admit appeal to me, im wary of being taken out my comfort zone of knowing what i like and dont..and bar one occassion when i have been pushed out of my comfort zone at his insisence i have enjoyed it...and he had said i would, so perhaps i just need to let go that bit more.
Yes, I think you need to get out of your comfort zone and let it go. I think since you are submissive, you will find it exciting to submit to a woman. Regardless of the sex of the dom, you will still be submitting. And submitting to a woman may have its own special dynamic.
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hi FD
DeleteYep i get that i would still be submitting but there wouldnt be that emotional connection which i have with my Master, i think its just getting into my head to see it as being a scene rather than execting or needing a bond to be present.
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That last paragraph, where you talk yourself straight out of something, just made me smile. I think we call that overthinking and I recognize the symptoms.
ReplyDeleteWhile there is no known cure, admitting that you have a problem does seem to help you know that that you have a problem. :)
Why would a woman be different than a man? I would say that submitting to anyone different would be different. However, I talked with H about this the other night (a multiple sub/dom relationship) and he had a very interesting reaction. "That fantasy is more common than you think."
Not sure if that meant him, but I did take note.
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lol kitty why do your comments always give me more to ponder...not that im complaining i like that.
DeleteI do have a habit of trying to talk myself out of things which is why ultimatley he makes the decision for me then i have nothing to talk myself out of lol
I have submitted to other men and also been double dommed by my Master and another dominant which were interesting experiences. With a women though i struggle with that concept because oh gosh this is going to sound so sexist lol but im happier to defer to men and well im scared i might get defensive and act out.
Interesting comment that H made now im curious as to what his reasonings are for that reaction lol
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ah tori pushing your limit that little bit further...smiles...i dont know if i could submit to a woman, i would struggle with the dynamics of it, i am quite strong willed myself so for me to do what a woman tells me to do...dont think that would work!!!...laughs but i hope you get out of it what you want...smiles
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oh i do enjoy pushing limits blossom lol
DeleteThis is something thats been on the cards for a long time but just never been made reality but now im thinking more and more about it and really struggling to define why i think i would find it difficult.
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Do you intertwine your submission with sexual acts? Do you fear engaging in a woman because of that intertwining? What is there to fear?
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Mr. AP
hello Mr AP
DeleteI would say that yes i do intertwine my submission with sexual acts but not just those alone, i have been with a women sexually so if that was incoporated into it then it wouldnt be a problem.
I dont know exactly what i fear, perhaps there is a part of me that wanders if i would like it too much and the potential repurcussions it could have on the relationship with my Master.
Also women scare me, we can be quite bitchy lol
It was very easy for me to submit to both my Master and a woman. She has been a friend for a year now, and we've had lunch with her, hung out casually at her house, been to munches and parties together and she had flogged me before, so it was all pretty comfortable. I was comfortable with her, with how she wanted to dominate, and I felt that she was dominant, on a socializing level. I'm probably not explaining very well. But some people you meet and feel they are your equals, or more submissive, or more dominant, just a feeling they give off and has nothing to do with kink, just personality. She always struck me as dominant so I had no problem submitting to her in a scene. I was a bit surprised when Master said I had to call her Mistress, and I'm still a bit off on that part of it, but I did it and it was in obedience to HIM that I did it.
ReplyDeleteI really, really liked the whole date, and my Master and our friend did too. We're going to do it again.
Im more open to the idea now than i ever was but i do think i would need to know what the 'scene' was going to entail, i love humiliation but i seriously doubt i could take it from a woman.
DeleteHmm calling a woman Mistress yes i would take issue with that if i had to i would but it would be through gritted teeth lol
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