Tuesday, 24 July 2012

Its pmt....thats my excuse and im sticking to it.

I am or should i say we are probably not the best examples of doing things the right or rather the commonly advised way, like the common advice for first meeting as well as others

1) have a safe call in place on first meeting....nope i didnt

2) dont 'play' on first meet..yep we did ..i know what a harlot!

3) dont 'play' under the influence of alcohol or drugs (not hard drugs)..yep we have and occassionally still do to both...albeit not heavy play ie bondage or edge play

This is me (us) i am not suggesting these guidelines are not followed..what im saying is they are just that..guidelines..not set in stone rules that should be followed at all costs.

My personal pet hates is bold statements outlining how something should be within ttwd and if your not that way well your clearly not submissive or dominant are you?, i have been here before and yes dammit im going there again......THERE IS NO RIGHT OR WRONG WAY yes im shouting.

Now im going back to my cage in the cellar to drink from my water bowl..coz obviously being a slave thats the way it is...yes thats sarcasm!
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12 comments:

  1. Florida Dom24 July 2012 at 15:05

    If you have any newcomers in the lifestyle reading you, it is good that you reminded them there is no right way or wrong way to do things. The key is what works for each individual couple and whatever they want and like to do is right for them.

    FD

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    1. tori24 July 2012 at 18:48

      hi FD

      I do think its something that newcomers need to know because otherwse well as kat below said it can all read like instructions.

      x

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  2. Kat24 July 2012 at 15:37

    I agree with FD. So many people (including myself) read these blogs and thing they are instructions! It took me a while to remember or figure out that they aren't.

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    1. tori24 July 2012 at 18:49

      hi kat

      yep it can be a bit overwhelming i think and sometimes a step back is needed.

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  3. Storm24 July 2012 at 18:36

    Slaves get water bowls?? Damn, I'm doing it wrong...Lol.

    And one would think that in a land of whips and chains, people would tend to be more accepting of individual choices.

    "That's too much, that's not enough, you are, you aren't, you're clearly doing it wrong" all very good reasons for avoiding fetlife lol.

    I'm ranting off subject aren't I...My bad!

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    1. tori24 July 2012 at 18:46

      yes lil you are doing it wrong and i am very disappointed lol im relieved you got it as it is intended sometimes i dont think people get my british sense of humour!

      I have heard that fetlife is very much like that, i did join but didnt find it easy o navigate so left...from what i have heard im not missing much.

      You rant away lol

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  4. Anonymous24 July 2012 at 20:29

    I enjoy your blog, Tori, because you tell how it is for you and don't expect others to do the same thing.

    Thanks for your candor!

    Love,
    Kitty

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    1. tori24 July 2012 at 22:55

      thanks kitty, i think we should all be more accepting that just because we may not be the same as others doesnt make it wrong.

      xx

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  5. Anonymous25 July 2012 at 02:55

    I find a prevailing attitude on FetLife among certain groups that there is The One True Way to do things and everybody else is a tosser. As a Bi/Queer Poly/Swing Sensual Switch I see this in every one of those circles! According to all "the rules" I'm really a "lying selfish confused closeted gay secretly straight monogamous cheating not-yet-broken sub wannabe Dom." Really? No. I define myself, Mrs. AP and I define our relationship, and we do what works for us. Nobody else -- until we incorporate another partner into the relationship -- has a say.

    Stay SINful
    Mr. AP

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    1. tori25 July 2012 at 19:33

      Yep im becoming more convinced that Fetlife is not somewhere i wish to be, the negatives seem to outway the positives.

      I agree it is what works for the couple..sod everyone else lol

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  6. Dee26 July 2012 at 19:54

    I like your bluntness tori. Very British :)

    Dee x

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    1. tori26 July 2012 at 22:53

      lol thanks Dee, i think we're renowned for it!

      x

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