A comment by anon on an old post of mine "Its just game playing really" asked "Is only 24/7 the real deal?" and "Is there a class A and class B type of submission?" i think anon took this particular post of mine in the completley wrong way which happens after all the written word can be open for misinterpretation.
But it did prompt me to think about these particular statements anon made, i do not think only 24/7 is the real deal its just different because obviously there are more considerations that have to be taken into account than there would be than those relationships that are online only, or for those that do not live together, not better, not worse, just different.
A relationship is defined by what the people involved want it to be, how they feel about one another, and sometimes circumstances mean little or no contact but a relationship is not measured by distance, yes im going to be honest and straight up admit that an online only relationship would not be for me, i need the physical intimacy and i dont mean just sex or s/m.
Nobody can say what is 'the real deal' because im sure to each and every person in their relationship to them it is 'the real deal' and from the variety of different blogs i follow some of which have similarities to my dynamic and others not so much the common theme is everybody is happy in their relationship so its as real to them as my relationship is to me.
Now as to a class A and a class B type of submission well i havent come accross this turn of phrase before, my feelings are that submission takes many forms, and people have differing depths of submission or rather they demonstrate their submission in different ways. There are some that may happily be submissive in the bedroom but only in the bedroom, is their submission in that bedroom less meaningful than mine? no of course not, they are more than likely just as happy and content with their submission as i am with mine, it all comes down to differences and being different does not equate to being worse or better.
You said this perfectly, it's not better or worse just different.
ReplyDeleteThankyou dancing sometimes im not sure if i make sense or not lol
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i don't know why people categorise. wait. i do. i'm a classifier. i put everything into neat pigeonholes in my head. but i have learnt that with submission / kink / bdsm / ttwd / dd or whatever other abbreviations you want to use for us lifestylers, it is best to just imagine each of our lifestyles as unique to the individual.
ReplyDeleteas everyone is different, hair, skin colour, shape, size, genetics, so is our submission / kink blah blah blah different.
why don't people get that? sigh.
and yes, you're right. different is a good word.
I think its natural to judge or to put everything into pigeonholes and thats why i think as much as labels can be irritating at times they are of use because they help in defining what is what.
DeleteI think what a lot of people have problems with is thinking their way is the only way and thats a very limited point of view.
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I believe that each couple must decide what is uniquely right for them. I feel there is no one right way.
ReplyDeleteWhat is right for a couple is what works for them.
Hug,
joey
yep i would agree with that unfortunatley there are many that dont see it that way, im all for being more accepting of other peoples kinks, it may not be to my particular taste but then im quite sure some of what i enjoy isnt for everyone either.
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