Wednesday 25 September 2013

i think......i dont think

I had my first session with a therapist this morning, and it was interesting, im not sure how i feel about it, but its early days.

Near the end of the session she asked me "are you a nice person?" and straightaway i replied with "i think so" and she pointed out to me that since the beginning of the session i have a tendency to preface a lot of my thoughts with "i think...." or "i dont think" in a manner that lacks confidence, that im seeking validation, that its ok to think what i do.

She has given me a task to complete before the next session, to list 10 positive things about myself that i know, that i have confidence in....and i havent started it yet.   Until this was pointed out to me i hadnt given it any thought, i suppose its become a habit, and i have been stewing on this since this mornings session.

And bloody hell, yes i do it a lot, when i talk to people, when i blog, reply to comments, comment elsewhere....but i dont think im not sure (there, that better!) its always because of a lack of confidence or needing validation...or rather i didnt think (ooops there i go again) that until she brought it up.....now im feeling paranoid...something else for me to overthink!

So now im going to be overly conscious of saying it or not saying it...ffs!

4 comments:

  1. Huh...i never realized the correlation between that little phrase and what it portrays...reading this it brought to mind a habit of my own with never saying "yes" or "no" to anything. I always have a "well I think thatd be fun but if you dont want to we dont have to" kind of answer. For me it's not so much a lack of confidence in myself though so much as a lack of confidence in whether or not im making someone else happy.
    Very interesting post its got me thinking alot now...

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  2. lol pyxie

    i dont think it means anything more than simply saying its what one thinks...and im feeling patronised now that she made it an issue when really its not.

    Sure i overthink, i know that, its the way i am but mostly when i say "i think" its because thats what i think! lol

    x

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  3. Tori, thank you for sharing this because it's given me food for thought as this is something I do a lot too.

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. I do too....a helava lot apparently lol

      But i dont think it has anything to do with what the therapist said....its simply how i speak..but boy am i concious of it now lol

      x

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