Wednesday, 18 September 2013

Outside the box

I like being forced to submit to his will, to what he wants....

he likes forcing me, but on his terms.

If im told to kneel and suck his cock he expects compliance, and he gets it (no hardship there lol) other times

He may grab my hair, push me to my knees, or pin me down underneath him and ram his cock in my mouth when im not expecting it, he is taking what he wants

If im told to bend over the spanking bench he expects compliance other times

I may be grabbed, smacked down onto it and held down

If he does use force in this way its because its what he wants at that time..plus i absolutely love it, what he doesnt like is my resisting when im instructed to do something, he expects my compliance.

I gave him my submission willingly, when i agreed to this dynamic i trusted him not to abuse it, submission in itself cannot be forced, well it could but i would be inclined to say thats not healthy. 

But being forced has its place if indeed its what both enjoy, which we do..eg the examples above, when he does use force its not because he has to, to get me to do what he wants, we simply both get off on it in certain circumstances.

I suppose its similar to the idea of 'play rape' nobody wants to really be raped, but yet 'rape play' is a popular kink, its centred around the idea of being forced...although the reality is its wanted, its a huge turn on.

On rare occasions he uses force to gain my compliance because im 'genuinley' fighting whats happening, this is not often, and he doesnt like it, but i need it, he knows i need it more than i do, and eventually i surrender...

its similar to being caned (or spanked etc) where i need release, but i cant get there and i fight it, hold back tears and i want it to stop, cursing, kicking out, but he wont stop and eventually i get past the barrier and the tears flow, i relax and embrace it.






24 comments:

  1. I really get this. My Master also always expects obedience, but sometimes just likes to force me, physically move me, without asking first. Because it is fun and hot I guess.

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    1. Yep i definitley agree it is fun and hot, i wouldnt want it like this all the time but on occassion its just what is needed.

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  2. tori,

    I understand it as well. I agree with ancilla. I enjoy being taken to a spanking bench and spanked OTK. Of course, I do not resist very much.

    Being in bondage on a bench and caned and whipped for Her enjoyment, for as long as She desires is a turn on for me. And, a big turn on for Her.

    I often struggle in pain, sometimes I cannot relax,but yes sometimes I surrender and embrace it.

    Well said.

    Hug,
    joey

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    1. I struggle a lot when in pain so bondage generally is a must, im really not so good at keeping still otherwise, i can to a certain extent but mostly its for my own benefit im restrained, to protect myself lol

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  3. I love being "man handled" lol that's what Tyler and I call it...he's much bigger and taller than me that honestly he can easily pick me up or push me around lol..I always tease him about man handling me...I love being taken for sex or anything..its really hot and sexy

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    1. Man handled...yes thats a great way of putting it.

      Its just so yummy lol

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  4. man handled---fun, yum, yum!! enjoy this weekend!

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    1. thankyou, we had a great weekend

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  5. Barriers are awful... Have fun!

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    1. They are indeed, but its fun bringing them down!

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  6. Great post Tori, I like how you put it. Sometimes he will ask, others he will force ... but it isn't truly forced as you both enjoy it. I love being 'man handled' too.

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. Thankyou

      There is something very primal about being manhandled i think, caveman ish lol

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  7. I sooo get this. "Forced" is so hot.

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  8. Love the post! Hope you have a great weekend!

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    1. Thankyou Misty

      We had a really lovely weekend.

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  9. Tori:
    Lovely post.
    I think there is a lot to the whole "force" play but in my mind, it is still being obedient and compliant.

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    1. thankyou Bleuame

      Yes there is certainly an element of being obedient, im not sure im always compliant though and the 'force' is real...but i need that on occassion.

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  10. lovely post and great writing style!!!

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    1. Thankyou very much...and welcome

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  11. You write with verve and excitement. I look forward to reading more.

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    1. Thankyou,

      I will go check out your blog, i love new reads....well coz im nosy lol

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  12. My man seems to mostly tell me what to do and expect compliance. He'll say, Bend over the bed, and I do. But it would be nice to occasionally be put there, at least a hand to the back directing me into place. Maybe he's not sure I'd be ok with it? Maybe next time I'll say, make me, and see what happens.

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    1. Most of the time i will get told what to do.

      I think perhaps talking to your dominant about these sort of scenarios would be a good starting point, it might be something he would enjoy as well.

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