Thats what my mate called me, in a teasing manner.
Im pretty sure the bossman would not agree with that assessment lol...come to that, i dont agree with it either.
I did wander though if thats the impression i give off to them.
I dont think i come off as prim and proper, or a prude, (oh if only they knew!) but because of the nature of my relationship with the bossman there are circumstances that do make me uncomfortable, i dont partake in conversations that involve moaning about our other halfs, putting them down etc, and i wont engage in behaviour that he wouldnt approve of....even if he would never know....(which sometimes is their argument)
I would know.
There was a time that i worried that he would get bored of having an obedient slave, where would the challenge be in having someone that did as they were told all the time?....not that i needed to worry because umm yeah i have had my moments, and im sure there will be more of them..but ok yes admittingly those moments dont occur very often at all.
Because its about respect, respecting his values, and he values obedience, and its about trust, i trust him to have authority and control over me.
I certainly wouldnt like it if he was slack in his dominance/control, i need him to be firm and unyielding, even when i think i dont want that..but thats probably when i need it most, if i want to thrive in his control, as i do, then its reasonable that its to be expected that i dont slack in my submission, my obedience to him.
He doesnt find my being obedient boring, he doesnt want his every decision, instruction etc challenged..its ebb and flow....i want/need/love his control and he wants/needs/loves to provide it.
Miss goody two shoes? no far from it.
A woman that desires to please, to be controlled, to thrive under his ownership, to be 'pulled back into line' when i need it? yes.
I always thank people who like to "label" me & shrug it off because I try really hard not to care what anybody thinks of me (of course sometimes easier said than done). Then I tell myself I am who I am & if people don't like it ... *shrug*
ReplyDeleteI never understood the whole partner bashing thing either. Don't you just want to say to them "hey if you don't like them, why are you still there?"
(((hugs)))
gk
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ah. thanks for the new address, you disappeared lol
DeleteIt doesnt bother me much about being labeled, although i know i shouldnt sometimes yes i do care about what people think about me...mostly those people i care about...but they are not seeing 'all' of me.
I think mostly when women get like that, its generally harmless, its venting, is the bossman perfect? heck no but i learnt a long time ago that what might be said in jest or anger can come back to haunt you!
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Tori tori,
ReplyDeleteI really liked your last statement. Perfect.
Hug,
Joey
thanks joey.
Deleteyes the last statement pretty much sums it all up for me.
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It seems we have all wondered about that from time to time, mostly in the early stages. Over time is has become apparent there is too much of a depth and connection that comes from this type of exchange that getting bored just seems an impossibility.
ReplyDeleteThe miss goody two shoes label definitely caused a giggle.
hi ya dancing...good to see you around.
Deletei did used to wander about it a lot, but i think your right, the relationship evolves, changes and adapts but yet the foundations remain secure and i think thats what keeps it from getting boring.
lmao.....yeah miss goody two shoes is not the way i would choose to describe myself.
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I think I'm starting to get a grasp on what it means to be submissive and then I read something like this, lol.
ReplyDeleteI talk to my friends about those things that he does that get on my nerves. I never thought of it as disrespectful, I found it to be a way to release the frustration, but now I see it is disrespectful.
Watch where you step because there is a huge pile of crap sitting right here.
And this is probably the tip of the iceberg of how I am disrespectful...
DeleteHey Misty
DeleteI saw your comment and wanted to respond as soon as i could (if dinner burns i will blame you lol)...ok
Please bear in mind that what it means to be submissive to you and your dominant will not be the same as what it means to someone else, the way my relationship works is good for us, its not going to be what someone elses ideal may be.
Its easy to fall into the trap (especially when starting out) to compare to others, i have done this, its not a good path to travel, you and your dominant will find a path that works for you both..its unique to you.
I suppose what im trying to say is that im not going to be the sort of submissive that would appeal to a lot of dominants, and vice versa....
reading blogs, or any information relating to D/s is great, you can never stop learning, no matter if one has been doing this 2 months or 10 years...but its always best to keep in mind....that there is no definite way it should be.
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Yes I do have friends who seem to make a habit of belittling their other halves at every opportunity. It takes something major for me to gripe. I'm not one for airing the dirty laundry in public.
ReplyDeleteGoody two shoes, if only they knew :)
oh gosh yes im the same, does he piss me off...absolutley and yes sure here on occassion i will have a grumble..i wander if this is because there is more understanding here? but in public, to run him down...no, it just doesnt seem right.
Deleteyeah if only they knew lol
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I can attest to what we may say on jest can come back and bite us in the ass
ReplyDeleteYes! it just takes a harmless comment to cause a lot of trouble.
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Little miss goody two shoes reminds me of high school kids trying to pressure another into doing something wrong. And it in no way describes you!
ReplyDeleteYears ago I heard a story. A husband and wife sat down to dinner. The wife said she thought it would be a good idea to share what bothered them the most about the other. The husband agreed and motioned for her to proceed. She listed all she could think of. Then she motioned for him to speak. He then told her he couldn't think of a single thing that needed to be mentioned.
I get upset and frustrated with my husband too. We all do. But that doesn't mean anyone else needs to hear about it. Also I have found by experience (from talking about my mil) that the more you talk about someone, the more you think about it, the more pest you get, the worse the situation or annoyance gets.
I love what you said about ebb and flow AND what you said to Misty.
:)
The husband was a very wise man lol but seriously yes it sums it up very well.
DeleteI do get annoyed with the bossman, he pisses me off, but im in agreement with you, dwelling on it and moaning about it to others just fuels the fire, plus the friends could say what they think....and that can cause problems..once its been said, its out there.
there has to be ebb and flow for it work.
I felt that i had to respond to Misty asap, because well what i said in the comment lol
thankyou
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People say the same thing about mouse...
ReplyDeleteYa if they only knew that it's so likely that mouse has a butt plug inserted and underneath all those conservative clothes....she's dressed like a total slut.
It's like a private joke. ;)
<3 and hugs,
mouse
Yes, it doesnt bother me really, although sometimes i do feel that im holding back because i do have to hide this huge part of my life away...but thats the way it has to be.
DeleteAs my granny told me years ago...we can never really know what goes on inside the privacy of peoples home, there is a 'look' for out and a 'look' for in...
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That was well said..you helped me..I've been struggling with some things lately and you really did help sum it up
ReplyDeleteo big hugs
thanks Daisy
Deleteif this helped in anyway im glad, sometimes it helps me just to get it out of my head and written down, im better at expressing myself here than i am vocally lol
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Hi Tori,
ReplyDeleteGreat post! Yeah, if only they knew! LoL. I too have friends that do this and it makes me feel uncomfortable as well. I've had them ask me what I think, hoping I will validate that they are right and he is an arse etc.
I love what you said about ebb and flow and your last sentence sums it up beautifully.
Hugs,
Roz
hi Roz
DeleteThanks.
Its difficult because just as you said, you know they are looking to have their moans and groans validated, i try to avoid getting dragged into it because whats said in perhaps anger or upset can be held against you.
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I sometimes have those same worries about obedience and boredom... and I'm so all for that last yes you wrote :)
ReplyDeleteI used to worry about it a lot....but then realising if its indeed what he wants, then that should be what keeps me focused.
Deletethankyou.
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