I had not heard of the term 'fluffy' women before, until i read http://cassaundrawithacollar.blogspot.co.uk/2013/01/crazy-new-ideaand-question.html?zx=ff9dede980d5261d latest post, and im a 'fluffy' woman and happy with my body.
This time of year, the time of those resolutions which i refuse to do (coz i never end up keeping them) a popular one is to lose weight, sure i could probably lose weight if i really needed/wanted to, im a uk size 14/16..14 bottoms, 16 top half..coz well i have big boobies! Im reasonably fit, i eat healthy but i dont deprive myself of choccie goodness either....i will never be skinny, im shapely, curvy..whatever you want to call it.
The bossman is happy with my body, im happy with it, i feel sexy, the bossman makes me feel sexy, perhaps its because im getting older im more confident with how i look and i dont stress as much as i used to about how people percieve me, do they think im fat? is my ass looking too big? etc, when i was younger, at school and later college i was so insecure, i had the long natural golden blonde hair and big tits, and perhaps i was being over sensitive but i was seen as the 'bimbo'..called it by friends as well, to be fair i dont think they realised how it affected me...i was not a very confident person.
I dont obsess with weight, i have a 10 yr old daughter as well as working with girls of all ages, i see how weight issues affect them, there is this ideal perpetuated by the celebrity culture that society seems obsessed with and the media that to be popular, successful, you have to be skinny and beautiful , i dont want my daughter obsessing about her weight, but its difficult to avoid it, its scary how many young girls (pre-teens) think they are fat and go on diets!
I can stand naked in front of the bedroom mirror and be happy with what im looking at, (oh gosh does this mean im getting old and contented) sure i have my moan and grumbles at times...who doesnt?
So if your on the larger side be fluffy and be proud of it! but regardless of body size most of all if your happy with yourself thats all that matters.
thanks for reminding me about that word. three cheers to all the fluffy women in the world!
ReplyDelete(i know some of you who know what i look like don't think i'm large, but for an asian girl, i'm an XL. the clothes in the stores here are made for little tiny barbie doll figures!)
I always find sizes of clothing in stores are not the same in different stores, i can go one place and be a 16, walk into another shop and im 18...fluffy women are more catered to than they used to be though so thats a bonus!
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I'm too tall to be considered fluffy, lol. I have always been a "big" girl though. I have a JLo butt, but I grew up in the time of Twiggy. I've fought weight issues most of my life. That stopped a long time ago though, because I always look beautiful in his eyes. I'm gonna work on getting a few pounds I've put on, off, but's that just so I'm more comfortable in my own skin, and my jeans, lol. I don't get on a scale or worry about the numbers, for me it's about being happy with myself. I'd be happier a little lighter, so time to work on it again.
ReplyDeleteI dont have a pair of scales in the house, i dont want to encourage the obsession of weight watching! lol i have a pair of jeans that i would like to fit into..summer is coming up so i will probably make an effort...winter i always tend to pile it on because of all the comfort food.
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My wife and girlfriend both could be considered "Fluffy". I am as proud of them as I could be. They compliment each other. Wife has no butt and GF does. Wife has large breasts, 40DD whereas GF is a 38C. Ladies, as long as your men are happy with your body so should you!!! I have always thought the larger woman was more desirable than the skinnys.
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lol so you have variety nothing wrong with that if your all happy, more and more men it appears are looking beyond the skinnys.
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I read CC's post to understand the use of the word "Fluffy." I have heard curvy and BBW. For me, the super model body is a turn off for me. They look unhealthy and I know they are probably not eating well.
ReplyDeleteI am glad that you are happy in your own skin.
Hug,
joey
I hadnt heard of it either, but i do like the term.
DeleteHappy for the most part yes, its better than constantly battling with food to keep a super skinny state..which i would never achieve anyway.
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Thanks for the link, I hadn't yet read Casaundra's post. Great term. I don't know if I would consider myself as fluffy, though my size is appropriate - my density may not be - I am very muscular in my fluff.
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It is a great term, it made me chuckle. I think being body happy is a boost to ones confidence, you dont have to be perfect just happy with yourself.
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I have gotten even more enamoured with my body since TTWD. I think that curves are good for holding kids; honeys and for swinging those hips.
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lol yes i agree with thats what curves are for, and i do think ttwd changes a lot about how we percieve ourselves physically as well as mentally.
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Aw, tori, thanks for the mention! And for adopting "fluffy"! It's a great word...and I feel it fits me perfectly! I had a boyfriend once who told me I was so soft and comfortable...lol...that's when I started using the term "fluffy". I agree with everything you said here...it is all about being happy with yourself...now, I am not COMPLETELY happy with my body...but my BD IS, and his love of it is definitely helping me to love it, too.
ReplyDeleteTo all you fluffy folks out there...love your fluff and yourselves! THAT is what matters!
Great post, tori! I LOVE your message and just wish we could figure out a way to get it to the world...especially all those young girls you talked about.
Hey tori...look what I found! You and your readers might like this! I thought about just posting it on my blog, and I have decided to make a new change on my blog thanks to all of this discussion and my book project, but I wanted to share it with you because my change may take a day or so!
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Hope you find it as interesting as I did!
hi ya
DeleteYour welcome but thanks to you, i love this term, its so fun and apt!
Interesting link thankyou, i think fluffy women are becoming more of the norm, you dont need to be super skinny to be fit, its about balance, keeping healthy lifestyles.
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