Years ago, before i met the bossman i had an abortion, i dont regret it, i have no moments of wandering what if? i did the right thing for me and for the child i already had. I have listened to anti abortionists preach their views, i have stayed silent, it was my choice alone to have the abortion, nobody else's, i dont nor should i need to give a reason for doing so. There are those that may judge and condem me, im a sinner is some people's eyes, a murderer in others, im none of these, im a woman that made a choice..the right choice but by no means was it an easy choice at that time.
With the bossman i have a coil fitted so im being responsible in preventing an unwanted pregnancy, i do not want any more children and i know that he doesnt want any, mistakes and accidents happen but i know that if i were to get pregnant i would not hesitate in having an abortion and i would have his full support but ultimatley it would be a decision that is mine to make either way.
Why am i thinking of this now? my niece has had a baby (baby is 5 months old now), she didnt want it she went to the doctor to arrange an abortion, she is only 17 but her boyfriend wanted the baby and her mum told her abortion was wrong and sinful, her friends all supported and ecouraged her to keep it, now her boyfriend is long gone, fatherhood was too much it appears and he left when baby was 3 weeks old and nothing has been heard since! her friends have moved on, there out enjoying life. My neice is depressed, resentful and is struggling to bond with her baby, she says everytime she looks at him she sees a burden she didnt want, she has sought help from professionals and hopefully it will get better.
I hope things will get better, i really do for both their sakes, but as she sat on my sofa last night crying, wishing that she had had the abortion that she really wanted, i cant help but agree with her, i dont say that to her, she doesnt need that.