I have and can make choices, i have many trivial choices..i choose whether i want a shower or a bath, i choose whether i want cereal or toast for my breakfast, some choices i make are run of the mill, some have consequences, some require me to think about whether the bossman would approve or not and then there are those choices that would be detrimental to us and to the very foundation of our relationship.
There are also many things he does not allow me a choice in, some being trivial and i dont bat an eyelid, some irritate me but i accept it without complaint and then there are some that cause me to become defensive, i dont agree, i dont like and i dont want to go along with it and i let him know as much...oh but i am left with a choice..i can choose to obey or not, but if i choose not to obey there are consequences and ones i wont like and i will still have to obey even after the aftermath of the consequences.
but its all just pretend really isnt it? he cant make me do or agree to something i dont want because that would be abuse wouldnt it?
I know what my answer is to those questions...No...this reality of M/s isnt a game because unlike a game its not always fun to play.