Monday, 20 August 2012

The idea of consensual slavery

My last post didnt really make a lot of sense, it was a bit vague.  It was brought about by a discussion with a friend and a passing comment she made to me "I think it would be more easier and fun being a slave" in response to a little moan i was having about the bossman.  So it brought about the discussion of the ideas of what a slave is.

6 years ago

I had this idea in my mind of what being a consensual slave in a tpe dynamic was, this was perpetuated with the ideas of having no limits, and an abundance of s/m followed with great sex when and however he wanted.  I liked the idea of being used soley for his pleasure, to be his slut, whore..to be whatever he wanted, to be controlled/dominated in every way, and being a slave..how cool is that! the idea turned me on, yes the idea of it all was very appealing...it would be fun.

Now

Im laughing at my ideas, some might understand why im laughing.  The thing is its taken me years to start really grasping the concept and the reality of consensual slavery and i still have a long way to go and much more to learn about myself, what i do know as a certainty is its less about the physical aspects and more about the mindset and its establishing the mindset that takes time..it does not happen overnight and it takes full time commitment from both.

I started blogging in 2007 when i agreed to the process of enslavement, after 2 years i took a break and started blogging again the beginning of this year, there were reasons for that nothing major the bossman and i were fine but in that break there was a huge transitional period.  Perhaps i should have documented it, i have posts i wrote but never posted, it was difficult, a lot of resistence, denial, it just wasnt and isnt as easy as i expected it to be..it felt like the proverbial bubble being popped and everything i belived it to be like when i first started blogging was a facade...an illusion....now i know it was just naivety.

Consensual slavery and/or tpe dynamics are not better or more than being submissive its simply another spoke in the umbrella that is ttwd, i do think though the 'idea' of slavery is whats most appealing but when the actual reality of it hits its not so much and thats when it starts to get difficult and challenging and to a certain extent not fun as the realisation sinks in.










11 comments:

  1. This post made a lot of sense to me and I think you have probably watched me go through some of this transition. In the beginning you fantasize about what its going to be like and it's all exciting and new and then BAM.....I can't go out tonight because you said so, WTF? Do i really want this, but you know I do.

    I am not complaining, I am very happy with the decision I made but I agree that the idea of slavery is a lot more appealing in theory then living in it....although I would not trade it for anything in the word.

    I have also noticed the deeper we go, the deeper my need for pain is. Sometimes I want that more than the play, if the play results wonderful but if not that's Ok too. Sorry I 'm rambling but its been so long since I have been on line, LOL.

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    1. You ramble away its been too long since you posted..yes im nagging lol

      No i wouldnt trade it for anything else either because the rewards far outweigh the difficult times.

      Hmm the deeper we go the deeper the need for pain..i think thats perhaps because the trust becomes more firml established but also that need to please them, their desires fuel that need..going to think on this lol

      xx

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  2. thank you, this is an interesting post.

    Just curious - what is tpe dynamics?

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    1. thanks

      tpe ...Total Power Exchange, where the dominant exerts full control and the submissive submits fully..most usually in 24/7 circumstances but not necessarily.

      x

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  3. I think we all have an idea of what something looks like/how it should be in ttwd. Then as you said, reality hits. Interesting post.
    Ps: my blog list appears to be playing up with your blog name so I've missed some posts.

    Dee x

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    1. hi Dee

      Yes i would agree with this its similar to reality not living up to the fantasy.

      I wandered if blogger is playing up, a few times i have logged on and its said im not following any blogs at all..and i have to log out and log back in again!

      x

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  4. Tori,

    Thank you so much for posting a glowing review for the Elusive O on Amazon-- I can't tell you how much good reviews help and I really appreciate your taking the time to do it!! You are the best!!

    (sorry, I tried to email this to you, but it didn't go through, so I'm posting as a comment!) :)

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  5. I have a few questions ! I have been asked to be a Goddess to this guy and he wants me to own him and make his life a living hell and sign a contract. Is that legal in Florida? OR at all? He lives in another state but I live in Florida! My other question is I don't want to hurt him real bad maybe just a little not as far as he wants me to go though. How far are you allowed to go knowing he is siginig all rights to me everything. Angel
    please write me at detailpatrol@yahoo.com thanks

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    1. I have no idea of the legal aspect but i would imagine not, i think i would want to know more about the situation. I would think its a bit far fetched.

      I wont email as i can respond just as well here.

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