I used to see being needy as a negative trait and perhaps in more conventional relationships its not something that is seen as desirable but the bossman likes my neediness, me well i struggle with it, part of me likes the fact that he brings out this neediness in me and that i am dependent on him for my emotional wants and needs as well as other mundane matters but then there is that other part that fears the emotions that being needy brings out in me.
Its not needy in a way of demanding and wanting his attention but..oh im struggling to describe it, its this need to feel owned, to feel controlled and it tends to manifest itself more when he is busy and perhaps its insecurity on my part..i dont know.
I find it scary still even after all this time that i have these conflicts of not wanting to be needy, because being needy means panic, panic of fearing change, i start imagining these silly scenarios and they are silly things like.....what if he didnt want me anymore? what will i do? what if he loses interest.....and i cant even explain why i have these trains of thoughts because everything is fine.
I wander if it is because the further we go in this dynamic the more that dependency and neediness grows and the real fear is how far deep my enslavement could go.
Hi, Neediness....was a big deal for me for a long time. At times it still is. Neediness, not me...but truth be told, I did need Master. I know see it as a part of my submissiveness, helps me be a better submissive, but at times I still struggle with it.
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hi abby
DeleteI agree that being needy is a part of being submissive and this is a good thing although it takes me a while to get my head around it lol
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I don't see a problem with you being needy. I think subs tend to be needy and a good Dom will reassure her that he will always be there for her.
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Yes its quite common to hear of subs saying they are needy, i think that in conventional relationships this isnt seen as a good thing so its changing the way we perceive things.
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You nailed it. Precisely. I have realized thought that, for us at least, it wouldn't work any other way. If I didn't want the control and the owning and the feeling of it all, if I were sated and satisfied, well - that would just be where we were before, kinda complacent. I think there has to be a demand and a supply and the one controlling the supply controls all. Or something like that.
ReplyDeletethankyou greengirl, i hadnt thought of it in the context of demand and suppuly but thats a very apt way of putting it,
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