Friday, 24 February 2012

Its not about sex

Its not about sex, how many orgasms i have, or dont have, how often i masturbate or how long i withhold, how often i suck his cock  etc.....the body is the easiest thing to control, to dominate, him getting into my knickers was the easy part, getting into my head was and is harder, it takes effort from both of us, it takes time.

Its the exchange of power, the rituals in place that enforce my submission that last long out of the bedroom.  I can talk dirty i love it, whispering the filthy things i want him to do to me in his ear, i struggle with having to sit down in front of him and talk about my feelings and thoughts, having them pulled apart, making me have to confront them.

I love kneeling in front of him and sucking his cock and having my hair pulled, but kneeling at his feet and worshiping them has more meaning.  Its easy doing things i like and enjoy for those obvious reasons, im keen and happy but its not about what i like and enjoy, my ultimate pleasure is in serving him..thats my enjoyment, being dominated and controlled in and out of the bedroom and this means sometimes having to do things i dislike and being open to new experiences.

Dont get me wrong, i love sex and naturally enjoy it.....but sex isnt enough.


  1. I like rituals too. They help me stay connected to him, and I feel closer to him when I do them.

    I agree - sex isn't enough. :)

    Fondly, Sky

  2. The sex will only get you so far. It's everything else that gets crazy at times. It helps when mouse reminds herself crazy isn't a destination. :-)


  3. Ditto what Sky and Mouse said. There is much more out of the bedroom time than in. The mental and emotional aspects reach much farther and deeper than the physical.


  4. Thankyou for your comments, its not that i think sex doesnt have a place but its just not an important place, it is the emotional and the mental.

    tori x

  5. tori: Good point that your ultimate pleasure is serving him and being dominated in and out of the bedroom. As you said, it is more than just about the sex.