Tuesday 12 May 2015

Get stuck in to blogging

Thoughts from discussions with a new blogger.

I started blogging in 2007, at Masters request, i took a long break of nearly 3 years, around 2009,  i wrote posts, but not published, every so often i will publish one, but getting to the point, the conversation was around the frustration of feeling like she doesnt fit in, lack of interaction etc

Apologies for not getting around to this sooner, i get distracted easily :)...of course this is based on how i use blogger.

1)  When i read someone's post, i read the comments as well, if its a comment from someone im not familiar with, i click on name, and sometimes (not always) add them to my blogroll.

2)  Dont feel obligated to comment on every post of bloggers you follow, if i did i would spend more time on here, i spend enough as it is!  i do however like to comment, sometimes i consider stopping blogging myself and just read and comment on others blogs...i would be content with doing that.

3)  When you get a comment, try to make the time to reply to it, i figure if someone has taken 5 minutes of their time to make that comment, its appreciated when its replied to.....however, some dont, dont take this personally, its how they blog.

4)  I allow anonymous comments, because some people are genuine, they just have no wish to blog, you can always set your blog to comments having to be approved if it concerns you..what might be said etc

5)  Write for you, not for an audience, try not to fall into the trap of obsessing over stats/number of followers, not important....well of course its nice to have followers, but what i mean is..as i read somewhere recently (Bleuame) quality is better than quantity.

6)  Although March is generally q&a month in Blogland, dont be afraid to ask questions at any other time, as long as one is polite and not crossing the line into a bloggers privacy..most bloggers are more than happy to answer.

7)  Dont compare yourself, your relationship to others, i was very guilty of this when i first started out, its of no benefit, serves no purpose, diversity is a good thing, and no matter how experienced, or how old one is...everyone can learn something new, or value anothers opinion.

Ok, thats all i can think in respect of tips/advice..anyone got anything else...feel free to tag it on.


18 comments:

  1. I especially agree with #7! It is sometimes hard to do, but worth the effort to remember.

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    1. Yep i was terrible for it but i do think its natural that one is going to, now i dont but yet i do in respect to his past with ex's..i shouldnt, but i do.

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  2. I need to reply more often. I don't mean not to reply, because i feel the same way you do but my life gets so busy i forget.

    Love the advice!

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    1. oh im guilty of it as well, i have some from past posts that i keep meaning to get to...and then i go and write another post and it gets forgotten! lol

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  3. Great tips!
    I can be horrible at replying to comments but I always, always mean to.

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    1. thanks.

      Yes, the intention is always there, i have some from past posts to get to, and sometimes i do miss out on replying to some comments..and of course its time as well.

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  4. Great tips. I am always looking for new blogs to read and when I find them I love to comment. Its even better when someone new comes to you and comments first. I have 'met' some great people here is bogland - long may it continue!

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    1. thanks

      Yes, i do value those that visit here, its what keeps me going..the interaction.

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  5. I always try to respond to comments--it only seems fair. Though it sucks when you get that one comment which takes a week to figure out a reply to, so you don't respond to anybody! Maybe that's just me though...

    I think that your comparison point was so important, and its one of the most difficult not to fall into. Oh yea, and five...Five was super good. Okay, I agree with all of them!

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    1. lmao....i read the comment from anon on your last post...and i was sat there thinking...how is one going to answer that! i did contemplate myself attempting but nope waiting to see your response lol

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  6. Hi Tori, this is wonderful advice. I especially like No's 5 and 7. It's hard to remember that what we read is only a snippet of the overall picture and that each couple is unique sometimes.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. thanks Roz

      Yes your right, it is only snippets, and usually your only hearing one perspective and not the other persons

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  7. Great post, Tori. I so agree with what you've said. Please - oh please don't ever stop blogging. I love your blog!!!

    Hugs,
    Fiona

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    1. thank you Fiona

      I dont want to, but sometimes it really does feel like..i just dont know what to write...and im going around in circles lol

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    2. SO WRITE ABOUT YOUR CIRCLES! I'm so finding that life is extremely circular...OK, well I don't think that, I think that it's more like a spiral. We get deeper or further with each rotation...but we do keep rotating back around and around. IDK.

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      fiona

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    3. lol yeah there is always that option

      i like what you said about it being more like a spiral, yes that is more apt

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  8. Wonderful post. I still hold back on my blog. I don't know why, but sometimes it is scary putting all the details of my sex life out there. I will eventually because, well I can...lol Hopefully, soon I will get to the point I will just put it out there.

    I will say that the more open and kinky blog posts I post tend to get MUCH more traffic. Perhaps, the world is just as kinky as I am.

    Hugs my friend,
    Kathy

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    1. thanks Kathy

      i think once you can get past the 'what will people think' then its much easier...although being as im terrible for wondering what people will think....i should practice what i preach lol

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