Tuesday 7 April 2015

A decade of debauchery

Ok so my April officially starts now...a month of positive posting!..lets see how it goes :)

This week, no month (cant remember exact date) is 10 years since Master and i met face to face for the first time.

I dont think either of us expected us to be here, where we are now, i know that doesnt sound very good, one doesnt generally go into a relationship thinking it wont last!  but then that i think is the point, neither of us was seeking a relationship as such, and certainly not love....and yet here we are.

Right, positive tori!....no negativity, i can do this, yes i can

I am happy with how much i have grown over the years, not just in being his slave but overall, im more sure of myself, of what i want and what i need, and im confident in being able to express that, but i think mostly im in a place of just trusting him enough to know what i want and need, and it took a long time getting there.

But i think a lot of that is simply maturing, growing up, experience etc, entering into an M/s dynamic at the age of 29 was just opening another door to discovering myself, exploring this side of me i was unsure about, not knowing if it was for me, i had doubts, but im so glad i gave it a go, i certainly have no regrets.

Master has always maintained that it was always in me, it just needed bringing out, if it wasnt him, it would of been some other dominant, and he has a point, but i for one am glad it was not someone else, we are lucky that we are very compatible, our needs and wants for the most part are on par.

Its difficult i think starting out, because one might not know for sure, it was different for me than him, i was relatively inexperienced, certainly not enough to be confident in knowing for sure what i liked, or indeed what i didnt like or to know what i wanted, whereas he has decades of experience more than me, he was/is very sure of what he likes, expects and wants.....i thought that might be an issue.

But, i took to it all really well, yes there were blips, and still are blips, (but this is a positive post) and i relished in discovering this 'world', that i thrived on being controlled, pleasing him being so important to me, that it became more important than my own discomfort or dislike of something...took me a while to get there, but when i did, it was a breakthrough.

Discovering the extent of my masochism came as an eye opener, i was worried that i wouldnt be masochistic enough for him, and i know even now that im not, but im enough of a pain slut, dont like that term btw to satisfy him.

It can only get better.

So i suppose i should end on a soppy note, i dont do a lot of sentimental posts, but a decade together warrants it i think!

Master, you have given me, shown me so much in the last 10 years, more than i could ever return, i know i must drive you crazy at times, 10 years ago i respected you as my dominant, but i came to love you as well as respect you as my Owner.

I cant wait to see where the next 10 years leads us, or perhaps more apt where you lead me.

I love you

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16 comments:

  1. How long did you wait before you started anything physical when you first met? I arranged to meet a dominant once and backed out last minute I was so scared and nervous, I'm curious to see how you felt, if you don't mind.

    Emma

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    1. i dont mind, gives me something to post about lol

      x

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  2. Congratulations to you both on 10 years! Lovely post Tori and beautiful words to your Master. Definitely a positive post :)

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. thanks Roz

      im not great with sentiment, so thank you

      x

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    1. thanks.....its been one hell of a ride, with a damn lot of bumps on the way!

      x

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  4. Happy Anniversary. lovely post, good start to the month.
    hugs DF

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    1. thanks DF

      Lets hope the month continues well lol

      x

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  5. Happy decade! Time flies when you're tied down and forced to submit to it ;-)

    May the next ten bring you both many laughs and interesting adventures in your M/s roles and closer as a couple.

    Hugs,
    Fiona

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    1. thank you Fiona

      lol yes nothing beats a good tying down, and force..yummy

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  6. Tori,

    Oooh! Hope you are celebrating the anniversary with lots of debauchery!!
    Congrats & warm wishes.
    I like these reflective posts...its good to see where we have come from and how we have grown in so many ways.

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    1. thank you

      Oh lots of debauchery planned :)

      It is interesting when one looks back, i need to remind myself sometimes that yeah i have grown even when i dont think it!

      x

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  7. It's hard to stay positive, huh?! Lol. Well done though, this was very sweet.

    Happy for you both!

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    1. It is hard lol it shouldnt be, but well, a month without moaning...bloody hell May will be interesting :)

      x

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  8. Happy Anniversary!!! I, too, have been with my Master for 10 years now. It is so hard to believe and yes, we often say to one another, Can you believe it? Would you have thought 10 years ago that we would be here? I, too, was sooo worried when we started dating because he had sooo much experience as a Dom and I was a new sub, just learning what BDSM stood for! Congratulations! And more to come/cum! :)

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    1. thank you

      It does seem that way to me as well, and can totally understand what you said about you being a new sub and him being more experienced, thats how it was for us.

      But i wouldnt change it, in some ways i think it helped a lot..the man has the patience of a saint...ok, maybe not a saint lol

      x

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