I was reading over at http://xpygarx.blogspot.co.uk/2013/07/marked.html and he linked to a short video clip of a women showing her marks off, and subsequently the post was regarding marks, his thoughts on them, and he posed some questions that got me thinking.
"Despite the consensual nature of such play is there a point though at which I should be concerned for a sub who likes to be severely beaten and marked? Is there not a line that should not be crossed by a Dom even when the sub desires that he go further and treat her even more severely? Clearly lasting physical harm may be one line - but even if it is not lasting harm, is it always justifiable? Is there a point where one needs to think of the psychological health of the sub as well as the physical health? Is it always ok to desire such pain and marking?"
When i watched the clip my initial reactions was along the lines of "well thats not bad at all" i certainly wouldnt have thought them severe...and then i dwelled on this (like i do) i thought..
have i become de-sensitised to images of s/m, and if so how does that reflect on me? so this morning i looked again, and i tried to think from a 'fresh' perspective and yes they are very vivid marks, and yes perhaps severe, i like them, i respected them...if that makes any sense at all.
But back to the questions Pygar posed,
what is considered severe though? i wander perhaps if its difficult to determine, my idea of severe may well not be the same as someone elses,
Crossing the line though, hmm i think SSC or RACK applies, should always apply. Is it justifiable?
for us s/m is about mutual enjoyment, there have been times when i have desired to go further and he has not allowed it..those times have been when i have been on such a 'high' i am in no fit state to assess my own physical limitations.....so he does that for me...i trust his judgement over mine...always.
I like to be treated severely, his cruelty turns me on, excites me, not always i hasten to add but most of the time we feed off one another, he loves my tears, screams and begging as much as i love the embrace of his whip, the kiss of the cane, and his taunts, if not at the time then definitley afterwards i relish those moments.
So is it justifiable? gosh yes when it provides so much pleasure and for us is more intimate than sex and certainly more satisfying.
Long term psychological health as well as physical health should be considered, i admit im still brooding on this, i think again it comes down to being sensible...
Personally as much as i love the more 'severe' sessions i am happy to have milder scenes as well, i do though yes like to have some marks, and feel a bit 'put out' if there are not any afterwards, but not to the point its an issue.
So yeah i think its ok to always desire such pain and marking but desiring and actually having it are different, i desire it but i know damn well i couldnt handle it on a constant basis and he wouldnt do that either.
I think a lot of responsibility is placed on the dominant, in keeping aware of his subs mental health as well as the physical, a 'good' dominant surely wouldnt want to damage his sub intentionally?