The heat we have been experiencing over here hasnt been good for me, pretty much most of last week i wasnt feeling good, but come Thursday i was really poorly, my sugar levels were going through the roof, and then a 12 hour train journey on Saturday to pick up my neice who is staying for a week....was too much, i started out at 5.50 am and arrived back home at 8.25pm as i wanted to avoid an overnight stay, i did it in one day...in hindsight...bad idea.
Anyway, checking in with blogger, which i havent been much of late (so some catching up to do with reading what you all been up to lol), i read a comment critiscing the post i made regarding needle play, it wasnt "broad" enough apparently, and "I think your post is biased, how arrogant of you to suggest its not that painful, are you an expert?"
ok, so i did state in that post that and i quote "I can only give my opinon from being on the recieving end of needle play" and "im not a medical expert"....
The odd thing is..well not odd but well im actually wary of dishing out advice, although i have no problem in asking for it, i think no matter how much we know, we should always be open to learning more, and there is no shame in reaching out to someone....i think its arrogant to have the attitude of..."oh i know it all, i dont need any ones advice, opinion etc"
But back to giving advice, yes i wrote that post because i was asked about it, and i replied to the person via email, pretty much covering what i wrote in that post, but i did express that ultimatley my opinions are based on my experiences.....and im sure someone else could write a post on needle play and have a different opinion.
Doesnt that apply to everything pretty much?
Giving advice i struggle with because naturally its based on what i know, what has worked and continues to work for me....but its not going to work for everyone, and thats ok, but its so easy most especially when new to ttwd to place too much trust in what "the more experienced say", to 'compare' when there is so much diversity within ttwd and all relationships are different.
Not saying one shouldnt ask, heck never stop asking questions (thats how we learn) but its more important to remember thats its based on that persons experience....and someone else could give a totally different reply.
You experiment, have fun and find what works for you.
I would hate to think that i come accross as "all knowing" because im most definitley not....i dont have all the answers, i mess up, and im not afraid to admit it...ashamed sometimes yes!
but i love learning, and i do learn, from my own experiences as they continue, from reading other blogs and reading different perspectives and from the interaction on my own blog.
One can simply never stop learning.