Last night was a girly night, my friend has very recently had her final divorce papers through so we were celebrating, it had been a difficult year and more for her, but she is doing so well, better than she thought she would...so it was kind of a 'finger up' to the ex celebration.
She posed a thought, that most certainly did get all of us thinking..."how safe and secure do you think your relationship is?"
see her ex husband had been having an affair, been going on for at least a year...and she didnt have a clue, as far as she was aware their marriage was doing great, they still had an active sex life, enjoyed family time (they have 3 kids) and in no way did she suspect at all.
and this is what has tormented her the last year, more than anything else.....that she really didnt have a clue! and it knocked her big time that everything she believed was real....wasnt.... that they were happy....gone!, she braved it out for her children but i was worried about her as were her other friends.
They did initially try to work through it but for her the trust was gone and they separated.
But now nearly 2 years on she is doing amazingly, but the scars are there, wary of dating again, trust issues which i think is understandable.
Anyway yeah it did get me thinking.
I trust the bossman completely...(like she trusted her husband?), i suppose a difference being if Master wanted to have sex with someone else..he would be upfront about it..but still....i keep coming back to..
how safe and secure is our relationship? anyones...