Im ok with asking for what i would like for the most part, sometimes dependent on what i want i still feel embarrassed, maybe a little ashamed...i would much rather he read my mind and did what i wanted without me having to spell it out...usually he has a pretty good idea about what i want....unfortunatley being the mean man that he is..he gets a thrill out of making me spell it out..detailing specifically what i would like him to do to me...he knows it makes me uncomfortable.
I mumble, that i just want him to hurt me, he isnt satisfied with that..."I know, but how do you want me to hurt you?" mmmhmm so i try to reflect it back onto him with the standard..however pleases you? nope bastard aint having that either "What would please me is you telling me what you want, now"
the cane please? and he wants to know where i want it, how many i want, how hard, i mumble replies until he is satisfied with the answers and im getting more exited, expectant, i just dont care how many, or where, i just want it now..please Sir?
"no"
goddamn bloody sadists.
Making you wait is really sadistic. They do enjoy making us wait.
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Yes they do..and i have never been much of a patient person!
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Meanie. Though, by the time he does get round to it.... won't it be amazing?
ReplyDeleteIt will...well it bloody well better be lol
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LOL, it is JUST like that here. I squirm, he enjoys.
ReplyDeleteit drives me nuts...its been toooo long.
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HA!
ReplyDeleteI hate these conversations. You're not alone, tori ;o)
it must be a Dom thing! infuriating it is lol
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i hate when Sir pulls that crap me. i envision me grabbing the cane and beating the hell out of Him. Lol ...
ReplyDeletelmao...nice thought...best kept as a thought!
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And yet it's this control over you and deciding whether or not you get what you want that you need the most. I also think it's part of your submission in having to spell out and express what it is you want and why. I use that very tactic myself. Not necessarily to make a sub suffer or to embarrass, but to have her be open and communicate. To see that it's ok to ask and say what you need. As much as we Doms may be good at reading minds, it doesn't always work. We need feedback and input, and I in fact require it. So, good for you for being able to tell him what you want and need, even if it is difficult to do.
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DV- what you say makes sense, rationally, but in the moment, man does it feel like torment for it's own sake.
DeleteIts taken me a while to get ok with asking for what i want, im motivated by the fact that he wants to know, needs to as well i think, the better he knows whats going on in my head the more equipped he is to dominate and know me.
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That is just... Grrrrrrr!
ReplyDeleteYes a "grrrrrrr" was all I could come up with.
grrrr is a lot more sedate than what was going through my head lol
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Oh my hell!!!!!!!! Frustration!!!!
ReplyDeleteYes!!!!! very much so
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Ooo that's sooo nice of him..lol... ugh they love that control...you get what u want when they want it
ReplyDeleteThis is true and i confess as much as it irritates me, i wouldnt have it any other way but his way.
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Ok...don't hate me, but damn that's hot! *ducking behind some furniture to avoid heavy items being thrown at my head* lol
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lol yes i concede it is hot...just bloody infuriating as well!
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OMG, were you at my house today?!?! He did it this morning and then again on the phone AND then again tonight. UGH!!!! I would LOVE for the "as many as you wish" or "whatever pleases you" or "you own my body - You may do whatever you wish to it."...to work...but it never does. I wonder how long I will keep uttering those phrases expecting a different answer (or hoping for one).
ReplyDeleteUgh, DOMS.
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lol i think from what im gathering it happens in a lot of houses.....but part of me likes being kept waiting, wanting...i must be mad clearly lol
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Hey Tori,
ReplyDeleteIt's funny how we all would much prefer them to just know what we want and need and not have to tell them. I think I agree with everyone LoL ... grrr, and hot at the same time. I appreciated DV's take on this.
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Yes i know...and then i think sometimes its a good thing he cant read my mind lol
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