A question from D on my post 'So the flip side'
"Tori, not even sure what blog to post on. Please don't be offended with me asking questions as you and your partner are way more advanced in this... Just trying to understand myself more and I really enjoy reading your blogs. Enough with the rambling, I am a loving wife and enjoy giving my husband's pleasure and also enjoy pain (90% in the bedroom). I am finding it hard to focus; maybe I'm just overthinking during. I'm not sure. Have you ever had to deal with this? (new into this). I mean I don't need to get off. Just knowing him being there for a couple of days thrills me but I'm just wondering If somethings wrong with me. If it's a waste of your time to respond I understand, I'm just so lost! Love your blog. Lots of love, D"
ok, please dont feel its a waste of my time and that i would be offended, you have given me something to post about lol
Ahhh the overthinking is common, honestly im terrible for it and i know there are others on my blogroll that have this affliction as well lol...im still pondering if this a submissive trait or is just women!
Im not sure what you mean about finding it hard to focus..do you mean in general? or during 'scenes'?
Its a lot to take on board when its all new, its all exciting because we are experiencing new things, perhaps things we have only ever fantasised about...it can be very overwhelming, scary and exciting all at the same time.
There is a term called 'sub frenzy' have you heard of it? its very common and normal, its basically (and this is my interpretation) where one is caught up so much in all these new and exciting experiences and we want it all now, its like all our senses are working overtime and there is a constant hunger for more....it makes it difficult to focus on any particular aspect.
There is nothing wrong with you. Honestly post this question on any blog (look to the right on my blogroll, anyone of them) and im 99% confident they will say the same....there is nothing wrong with you.
But i do understand, i think, why you may have these thoughts, occassionaly i have moments of thinking im not 'normal' what we do, what i enjoy isnt 'normal' because some of it isnt understood, its not like you can talk to your mates about it for fear of what they will think.
I hope that helps in some way.