I really dont know how you can be so calm when im such a bitch at times, im sorry (and yes i know im always sorry) but if i wasnt i wouldnt say it (coz you know im a stubborn cow at times as well), i was out of order and my attitude was disrespectful.
I just cant stand your silence and indifference, it hurts more than anything else you could do.
I know just what you mean. My sir had given me the silent treatment one time...I don't want him to have to repeat it. It feels like you're adrift when this happens. But it did teach me an invaluable lesson and I won't repeat the same mistake twice.
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jodi
hi Jodi
DeleteAdrift. Yes thats about exactly how i feel, it does make me reflect though and therefore yes its an invaluable lesson.
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The one thing I have learned is that this lifestyle leaves us so incredibly vulnerable that the distance that silence and indifference create, are almost unbearable to me. I hope that you two resolve your differences quickly and you can return to the love and closeness that you both desire.
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bg (P Surren)
Thanks bg
DeleteOh we will be fine, i pushed him too far, its my mouth...i swear it has a mind of its own! I have disappointed him and i need to deal with that, but it shall pass.
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Oh tori .. I hope you don't have to suffer the silence too long!
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DeleteI think, or rather know its a point he is making, and its not so much that im getting the silent treatment in a childish way but rather not addressing my behaviour specifically is forcing me to think about it and the more i am the more im realising how really out of order i was.
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Awwwww, tori I hate silence too. I hope you both can break the sound barrier soon.
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thanks Sarah
Deleteyeah, i feel really bad, he knows i do and its because of his indifference and not acknowledging my behaviour in a direct manner thats making me feel bad....but i needed this as much as i dont like it to get me back into line.
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According to so many of these blogs that the article was talking about, your lifestyle is better because the spanking clears the air and there's no fighting, or not speaking to each other. However, from this post and the comments you received, thats obviously not true.
ReplyDeletehey anon, trying to stir the shit up by any chance?
DeleteWell i will assume the article you are talking about is the one about ChristianDomesticDiscipline as you havent been specific, i think you might need to pick a few posts at random on this blog......because this is not CDD...yep you aint in wanderland anymore Alice!
Are these lifestyles better? your making assumptions, i certainly have never stated that, its better for me yes, i thrive in this environment, but it doesnt make my relationship better than anyone else's.
And i will pass on the spanking actually, however tie me up and whip/cane the shit out of me and im a happy bunny and its not done to 'clear the air' its done because we both enjoy it.....i can of course only speak for myself.
Meanwhile i suggest (and i mean this sincerely) if your going to make assumptions you make the effort to gain a bit more understanding of these lifestyles.
ta
I am never spanked to clear the air either tori. I engage in because it is fun, erotic and pleasurable.
DeleteBut, I do communicate better with my TTWD playmates. They are more open and honest than most vanilla folks.
And, my TTWD friends are not judgemental.
Yep for us its mostly for mutual enjoyment.
DeleteI think we communicate better because we understand one another more than the vanilla person can...and yes definitely less judgemental.
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I know the mouth that seems to have a mind of its own too well ... but silence is worse than any other punishment could ever be. Hope his indifference passes quickly (however well-deserved you think it to be) ava x.
ReplyDeletelol im glad im not alone....it just runs away with me without thinking..and i should really try to get it under control.
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I hate the silent treatment too. Hope you learn the lesson quickly tori and its over with soon xo
ReplyDeleteIts not so much that he is silent, but rather he wont acknowledge my behaviour which makes me distressed because i know i have disappointed him.
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I'm a little late, but I hope the silence has ended.
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Its fine now, its just horrid being dismissed and left in limbo.
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Tori--hope the silence has been broken and one way or another...the air has been cleared (*grins* loved your reply to anon).
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Its all good thanks, it just hurts awful at the time, i need closure.
Deletelol well i know i really need to work on being less sarcastic but well i just wasnt in the mood for it!
x
Hi tori,
ReplyDeleteMy mouth gets me in trouble all the time. It's such a struggle for me to not be sarcastic and when I don't get a reaction from him I run my mouth even more. I can't seem to stop myself when I'm doing it either and I don't usually feel bad about it until the next day. By then, I really feel awful about the way I acted and he won't call me or answer my phone calls so I feel even worse. You would think that I would learn......
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