Its not that i feel a need to defend the Bossman (ref the anonymous comment on last post) but i recognise that for sure it does happen....that submissive women (and men), those with little or no experience do get taken advantage of, in the beginning when starting out it is all new, i do get that one is desperate to put into practice their desires..and there are those out there ready to take advantage of that.
Master is older than me, by 14 years which really i dont consider a huge age gap, i think its perspective, if i was say 18 and he was 32 then yeah if it was my daughter i would have my concerns, but i was in my early 30's with a marriage behind me and rearing 2 children, Master was in his late 40's..so i think that puts that in perspective.
Master was at university when he first came to discover D/s and bdsm, with an older woman, he was 17/18 (he is 52 now) and he subbed to her, he said that he enjoyed it, and what he enjoyed was the power exchange..but he wanted to be on the other end...so he started topping her under her guidence...and thats how he began and continued down this path exploring.
So he started out at a young age, whereas me i was in my late 20's before i took the plunge into discovering this whole new world, being as its the age of the internet that was the obvious place to start, and had a brief dabble in the water with a dominant before meeting Master.
I sought out someone older and experienced on a bdsm website, InformedConsent which alas has now folded, because of my inexperience i naturally wanted someone that had plenty....and well i do like older men, ironically the bossman had tended to go for older woman with experience.....and he got me..Ha!
Has it been easier because of his experience? you know im not sure, in many ways i think yes but then sometimes i wander how nice it must be to start out in ttwd together, both discovering new experiences, but we are how we are...i wouldnt change that....and
no matter how anyone gets *here* as long as they are enjoying their journey together does it really matter who has travelled the longest? no