It had escaped my notice that there has been controversy recently over an article on CDD which has caused some ripples within the blogger community, some choosing for their blog to go private. I only came accross this when reading Ward and June's blog and reading said article myself.
We dont practice CDD although discipline plays a part in our relationship, its more from an M/s structure which is different to how i percieve CDD, but it does bring about the issue of privacy and protecting ones self.
What i found uncomfortable about the article was the links it provided to blogs, if i was to come accross my blog in a link on an article slamming the lifestyle i lead then the first thing i would do would be to take my blog down.
The link to article i read
In my opinion this is not in any way because im ashamed of the way i live and nor do i think its allowing the media to 'win' its simply about being sensible and keeping safe, the risk of being 'outed' is very small (i would hope) but i also couldnt handle any potential backlash of attracting unwanted attention...and my Master wouldnt want me exposed to that either.
I think there needs to be sense of realism that ttwd in whatever form it may take ie whether it be DD or M/s based, they are generally not lifestyles that are understood from the eyes of those not living it, its also i think realistic to say that abuse does occur within these dynamics also..as it does in any relationship form..vanilla or otherwise....im not suggesting that this makes it ok or acceptable for ttwd to be slammed, its not.
Its conflicting because yes as a community i think its important to stand together, but its also knowing when to pick ones battles wisely, when the media decides to get its claws into something they can be brutal, what once they raved about, because it was 'fashionable' (think 50 shades) they can turn on just as quickly...
Soon they will get bored and they will move onto the next trend etc, but if the spotlight was on M/s or s/m and it was being slammed and they were linking to blogs..of which there may be a risk i could be one of them..you can be damn sure my priority would be protecting myself and avoiding the risk of the ripple effect where those closest to me could be affected.
It might be seen as cowardly, or seen as letting them win....i see it as safeguarding until one knows the lay of the land, i wont put my or those closest to me privacy at risk.