Saturday 16 February 2013

Thats a first (removal of post)

I have removed my last post, not retracted a post before, not that i can recall, i dont like doing it because i tend to stand by what i write, even if later i have a different opinion what i wrote at the time is what i thought/think.

I have many posts in my back catalogue, published ones that i think differently about but i dont remove them because well they show growth etc.

I am going to address that here in ttwd, in bloggerland i do think we are for the most part accepting of others regardless of their situation, there might be the odd debate, heck there is even the odd post that causes a wave throughout our little corner of the world.  I have noticed that on certain occassions we will get on the defensive if we feel that one of us in bloggerland is being treated unfairly..usually anonymous comments that cause the furor (spelt right?).

Some might say i have no morals because ...and i quote from a recent message about my last post (now removed) "support those having affairs behind their spouses backs, do you have morals"

I am not going to condemn people for the choices they make, right or wrong its really none of my business and i dont know the ins and outs of their lives. 

I have the choice to read whatever blogs i like, no-one forces me to read them much the same as no-one is forced to read mine.

Ok i feel better for getting that off my chest.




13 comments:

  1. Sorry you felt the need yo do that Tori and very sorry I didn't get read it first.

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  2. I read it, tori, and was going to comment on the minor point of whether trust can be regained in ttwd after cheating. The post was very non-inflammatory and I thought conveyed your point very well. I'm sorry you felt the need to remove it because of a single comment.

    love, squirrel

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    1. hi ya squirrel

      It wasnt just the comment squirrel, i thought about it after discussing it with he who knows best lol and came to the conclusion that it might cause drama...some posts there is that feeling you know that its going to and i was letting what happened in my family spill over onto here...temperments running high and i figured it was probably best to remove it.

      The point i was trying to get accross was about taking responsibility when relationships end, but i think people would focus on the 'affair' part and i didnt want to get into the whole, is it right or wrong argument, thats not what it was about.

      x

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  3. I read it too, I didn't think it was at all that infammatory. I didn't comment because I have no experience with infidelity. For what it's worth, I agreed with you, if you are gonna talk the talk, you better be able to walk the walk. He didn't do that. I read it as you were protecting someone you loved. I would have done the same thing.

    I'm so sorry anonymous commenters are effecting what you post. I'm tempted to say, don't edit yourself, don't give them that power. But I also admit, I don't have the problem with anonymous commenters that some experience. Do what is comfortable for you :)

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    1. hi faerie wings

      Thanks, its the first time i have let this happen but as i said above to squirrel i just had this feeling it was going to get a lot of backlash and i really dont want that.

      x

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    2. I read the post too and didn't find it inflammatory. I think I got your point- he made a choice and blamed her to justify what he'd done instead of owning it.Sorry you felt you had to remove the post, but I understand why.

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    3. Hi Mrs D

      Thanks, i felt it was for the best even though if im honest i do stand by what i said.

      x

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  4. I missed the post but I am sorry you felt you had to take it down. But I respect your right to do what you think is best.

    FD

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    1. hi FD

      It was one of those posts that i thought my cause a stir and i didnt want.

      thank FD

      x

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  5. You shouldn't need to edit yourself or your thoughts. But ya...mouse does it too.

    Hugs,
    mouse

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    1. hi ya mouse

      Nope i shouldnt need to but well sometimes its just not worth the potential agravation it could cause, i might try tackling what i was trying to say again.

      x

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  6. I support what you have to say.

    Hug,
    joey

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