Lovely welcome lie-in this morning as its the school holidays, paperwork to do which i will get around to, yeah im a procastinator! blogger seems to being a bit more co-operative today, its actually updating my blogroll...i shall check out shortly if its letting me reply to comments on my posts, im not ignoring people honestly.
Bossman is busy with work, i seem to say that a lot and im feeling..i want to say neglected but thats overly dramatic, perhaps a little needy.
Im going to apologise, and whats worse im not sure who im apologising to, i was left a comment but it went to spam folder and i deleted it by not leaving it unticked, when i mass deleted, so if whoever you are reads this im sorry i wasnt being dissmissive of your comment.
You asked if i recall, not word to word my memory isnt that good lol if there is any resentment over being told no to something i wanted? and testing me?...im not sure what was meant by that?
I would love to say no not at all but that would be stretching the truth, although im not sure i would say its resentment i feel, probably more sometimes its a twinge of disappointment really it depends on what it is i wanted and how much i wanted it, mostly i will just shrug a "no" off because he is consistent in that a no is a no, nothing i say or do will change that so its best to just resign myself to that.
Testing? like as in setting me up to fail? or saying no just for the sake of it? He doesnt do this, most definitley not setting me up to fail, he simply doesnt 'play' those sorts of games, he will only ever ask of me what he knows im able to do, i may not like or want to do xyz but there is still the expectation that i will do it...i guess its that difference between cant or wont, cant is acceptable, wont is not.
When he says no its at his discretion, depends really again on what it is, if its appropriate he will explain why its a no.....im not meaning to be vague but its just well circumstance dependent.
i get what you mean. So far i havent felt that "disappointment" at a "no" but then so far Sir has not really said "no" to something that I really wanted. Im sure it will happen and Im not looking forward to it but at the same time, I am. if that makes any sense at all.
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It makes sense, i think because it sort of puts you in that position of finding out how you will respond and its a learning curve.
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The disappointment of a no always sucks and there was a time in the very beginning when resentment would set in and the acting out would start.
ReplyDeleteIt comes down to the explanation for me. Once one was able to communicate that the explanation helped her digest the no he became more willing to give one so it worked out.
Yes an explanation is always good, dont always mean i get one its dependent on the situation, and i have learnt to just accept a no....mostly lol
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