Sunday, 9 February 2014

Not the answer your looking for

Not so much now, but back when we was more involved with others and i got talking to subs and Doms, a common query that people wanted to know about each other seems to have been "whats the worst he could do to you?", a few times in comments over the years its also cropped up.

and i get the impression that there is this expectation of me describing some really intense s/m session, and i would avoid giving an answer.

Because pain is nothing, its not the worst.

Other than releasing me, the worst he could do is to be indifferent, to let me choose what i wanted, when i wanted, to not be concerned if i didnt do something i was told to, to ignore me, to just let me go along as i liked without care/concern, to let the proverbial leash drop from his hands.

The flip side of the coin, "what do you enjoy the most?" its non specific, but im guessing there is this expectation that it will be a description of graphic sex or again an s/m session.

Im not a slushy person by nature, but what i do enjoy most is when we retire for the night, i love sitting up in bed talking, watching tv with him and then snuggling up before going to sleep, im so not a romantic person but just falling asleep with his arms around me at the end of the day is what i enjoy the most.

As great as the tpe, the sex and the kink is, its the everyday things that mean the most.










16 comments:

  1. The greatest for me is the intimacy that our lifestyle creates. Beautiful post

    hugs
    p

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  2. I love your post. I absolutely agree with you on the worst. Indifference. Oh, that would be crushing!

    Thanks for sharing!!!

    Hugs,
    Fiona

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    1. thanks

      Its such a huge part of the dynamic i believe, to build consistency, to have active dominance, without it i would be lost.

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  3. Yes indifference. Or disappointment ...the worst

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    1. I agree with disappointment but i think thats something that i would create, if that makes sense, whereas indifference would be the Dom's doing.

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  4. tori,

    I agree that indifference is terrible.

    Hope you have had a good weekend.

    Hugs,
    joey

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    1. I hope you do to joey, thinking of you and your friend

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  5. I love this Tori! I too love the intimacy, snuggling up in his arms :) Yes, indifference is definitely the worse!

    Hugs,
    Roz

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    1. thankyou Roz

      the intimacy is so important, the snuggling seems so trivial but its just the perfect way to end any day.

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    1. thank you, i think for most subs it appears i think because it perhaps displays a lack of concern and care.

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  7. oh gosh yes. Indifference is the WORSE. Disappointment is AWFUL, but indifference, withdrawal, ignoring - I can't hack it, it's a deal breaker.

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    1. Ignoring is a big no-no for me as well, it would just make me withdraw into myself, i couldnt handle it.

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  8. I couldn't agree more.

    Indifference. It would... unravel me.

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    1. yes!!! unravel..perfect way of putting it.

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