Is slavery for me?

"I read some of your posts and some of it fascinates me, but a lot of it scares the fuck out of me, I don't think I could be like that, is there a going back if all goes wrong or there is a realisation that it's more than I can handle?, how do I know if slavery is for me, we don't live together and it's not possible that we ever will, so can we have a TPE?.  I would appreciate your advice?

I replied to this comment via email, and yes i asked if i could summarise it on my blog, as it is a subject that crops up on occasion...and ok i wanted distraction from the consequences of my last post....eg i dont want to talk about it atm!

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I cant answer whether slavery is for you or not, the only person who can know that is you, i know that might seem like im passing the buck, but i believe it to be the truth.  

What i do know is, forget about what i do, how it is in my relationship, my slavery is personal to me, to my Master, its how we are, for others in M/s dynamics it may well be very different...there simply is no blueprint to define how it should be...its what you and your dominant want it to be.

Obviously bear in mind this is my opinion, and its probably not a popular one! TPE as the total in it implies, means all, everything, all the time and so therefore im hesitant to say that TPE can apply to those relationships that are not 24/7....but that is my opinion.

By no means (and im covering my ass, in case offence is taken lol) am i saying that those who are 24/7 are in any way 'better' or more 'real' than those that are not, its simply speaking from my own experience that M/s because of its intensity and mostly i think because its not just about the kink, its about service, day in day out, and fully relinquishing control (which is a huge part of what being a slave means to me) is not fully achievable in a situation that is not 24/7.

But again to reiterate that is my opinion, there is no 'right' way.

Is there a going back?

Yes, these relationships are based on consent, it is consensual slavery, however i think its very important to talk, talk and talk again to each other, have an understanding of what each others expectations are, and being realistic with those expectations.

And really, try looking beyond the labels. its too easy to get caught up in the idea of " i must do xyz to be a slave" or "i cant be submissive because i dont do xyz"

Im opinionated, stubborn, sarcastic and on a really bad day a complete and utter stroppy bitch....some might say thats not the personality of a slave.....and thats ok, i have yet to find the ultimate definition of what a slave should be like....and thats because there isnt one....well ok my Master gets to decides on how he likes his slave to be.....and yeah well lets just say im work in progress!