"shouldn't you be able to hold position instead of having to be restrained, it shows more willing submission rather than having to be forced, especially being as your a slave"
you know, im not sure if this is meant sardonically or not, however im in a very jolly mood as i have had a glass of wine and chocolate, which is a rare treat for me these days, so i shall give the benefit of the doubt.
Firstly being a slave has nothing to do with it in my opinion, unless i missed the memo stating otherwise, you know what niggles me is this whole idea that there are these set in stone ideas of what a slave should or should not do, so lets get rid of some common myths shall we.
1) a slave cant or should not have a safeword.......bollocks
2) a slave cant or should not have limits.....yeah bollocks to that one as well
3) a slave is a 'level up' from being a submissive....and that can join the bollocks list as well, being a slave does not make one more superior than being a submissive, just perhaps a different 'type' of submission.
4) a slave is weak.....quite the opposite, it takes a lot of strength to submit completely to the will of another.
Now, holding position, does it show more willing submission?
if you think it does, then thats fine, personally its not something i have given a lot of thought to, my Master has certainly never implied as much on the times i have needed to be restrained, so i figure if he hasnt got a problem with it then i havent either.
I love to be tied up, not just for the purpose of s/m but just being in bondage alone without any other kink does it for me, i find it calming, and it gets me into a very submissive head space, very quickly, if i had my way i would spend a lot more time in bondage than i do now.
Now, when it comes to s/m, sometimes i can hold position quite comfortably, and other times i cannot as much as i want to, when your say, holding onto a cross and a whip is striking you hard, taking you beyond your endurance level, pushing you beyond your normal limits its very difficult to maintain position, for those that can, fair play to them.
But im a wriggler in general, even without it necessarily being harsh im inclined to thrash about, so for safety reasons its better that im restrained......certain implements more so than others you dont want hitting you in the wrong places if one should unexpectedly move their position.
Plus, i can take a lot more when im restrained, not just because i cant escape it, but because as explained above it just puts me in a really good headspace, but yes of course because i am restrained it reinforces in my head that i have simply no choice but to accept what is happening and generally, albeit not always stops any fighting against what is happening.
All in all, there are other ways, ways that are more important to me, and to him that show my willingness to submit.