Tuesday 21 May 2013

Time out? no thanks

Im terrible for procastinating and i know these questions have been sitting there waiting to be answered....i can just but apologise..im getting to them, although in my defence some of them are going to spam and i rarely check that folder.....plus blogger is back to hating me at the moment as when i logged in this morning im apparentley not following any blogs..again.

His_christa asked

"Do you ever get time off from being a slave, to do what you like?  I mean no disrespect but surely there must be times when you just want time out?"

I think if we look at this in the same light as being parent, the concept is similar...so

Im a mum, i will always be a mother, sometimes im at work, and my children are at school, sometimes they are staying with their father and are not home with me.....however being apart from them doesnt change the fact that i am a mum..im just not 'mothering' at these times.

Does that make sense?

So no i dont get time off, i may not necessarily be 'serving' him directly all the time because of work etc, but his influence, control and dominance surrounds me, i have structures in place eg rules, expectations of how i should behave, i know what he would approve of or not.

Yes there are times when perhaps i really dont feel or want something that he requires of me, although these times dont happen often, but to have 'time out' isnt something i would want, i would find that more distressful than beneficial..i thrive on having structure in place, i like the security that this brings.

But mostly its not in the physical interactions, its how i think....the mindset.

Hope that gives some clarification.

and to add on the end..anon asked

"why do you use obscure titles for your posts?"

I dont always.  Im pretty sure i have been asked this before! anyway the simple answer is that it makes it more difficult for search engines to find my blog and thats how i like it.







8 comments:

  1. tori,

    Thank you for answering some questions from your mail box. Actually, I feel you are very prompt and thoughtful with your replies to comments.

    Hug,
    joey

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    1. Thanks joey but its been sitting in the mailbox for quite some time, i just get distracted really easy lol

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  2. Hi Tori,
    I like the analogy with motherhood. There is no time off, time alone isn't time off, you're still doing stuff for them and thinking about them.
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    1. thanks

      Yes, time off just doesnt happen, well sure there are moments but then they are still there on our thoughts lol

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  3. That's beautifully and sensitively explained, tori. And I feel very much the same way. There is safety and security under his hand.

    (((hugs)))

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    1. Thanks June

      Yes very much that sense of safety and security that they provide is so important and comforting.

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  4. Tori,

    Yes! This is an awesome reply to that question.
    And I get what you mean when you say, "time out' isnt something i would want, i would find that more distressful than beneficial."

    That rang true for me, as well.

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    1. Thank Bleuame

      Its sometimes nice to think it would be great sometimes, but the reality really is i wouldnt want it, i like the security of knowing i dont get it lol

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