Saturday 6 April 2013

Pause for thoughts

I have been thinking about this blog (nope im not giving up!) and its purpose, its meant to be a 'safe' place for me to get my thoughts out, some light hearted and some not, i have charted many of our highs and a the lows.

Its been a place to get out my feelings as our relationship has developed, how i have felt about certain things, and there is still much more i want to experience, but relationship wise we are doing great, sure he is really busy at the moment and distracted but im ok with that, im feeling really secure with 'us'...so its left me thinking....about this blog.

I have never wanted this blog to be labelled as a sex blog, although i guess thats dependendent on how its interpreted, i like healthy conversations about M/s, s/m, tpe etc but im really not sure this is the place to do it, not anymore.

I think i just need to re-focus on what i use this blog for, which could turn into rambles that dont make sense.....so business as usual then!

















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  1. Yea...it's hard having a public blog...just at times. Really sometimes hate going back and reading old posts...gah! Makes mouse feel like she's nutty...all the going back and forth...

    Yanno?
    Hugs,
    mouse

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    1. It is, and although i have found it really useful in making sense of things, i sometimes feel its just swings and bloody roundabouts!

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  2. Tori and mouse. I have read almost all your posts. You describe real life with its ups and downs. And sometimes our thoughts are disjointed. That is real also.

    I am fascinated by how you have described your respective journeys.

    Just do it. Write what you feel.

    Hug,
    Joey

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    1. Thanks joey

      I do enjoy blogging and yes i try to always write what i feel, im just reflecting on what i write about and its purpose.

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  3. I think all of us do that from time to time. Hugs

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    1. Yes you are most likely right, i have seem similar thoughts around

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  4. I don't think a blog has to be in focus. As Joey says right what you feel and go with that.
    DF

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    1. yep i know, just sometimes its so out of focus its completley fuzzzy lol

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  5. I'm glad to hear you aren't giving up. I don't have nearly as much time as I wou;d like to read a nd comment, but I always enjoy what I do have the time to read here :)

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    1. Thanks faerie, and its nice to have you back, i think im enjoying more reading other blogs than i am focusing on this one!

      x

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    2. Your posts are always good to read no matter the topic. Glad you are not giving it up. It seems this slave tends to blog more when things are in turmoil and there used to be worry that one was painting a horrible picture (and sometimes she still does) but then she realized the blog is for her so she stopped worrying about it.

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  6. A blog is supposed to be based on one particular subject??
    *Mutters, I knew I was doing it wrong!*

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    1. lol lil

      its not that, its more im not sure what the purpose of this blog is anymore, i have plenty i could write about but well i need to think about what i want to focus on.

      yeah i know that sounds vague!

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  7. I think blogs just naturally evolve as we do as our lives do. I wouldn't think too much tori, just write what you need to, we'll be reading as always xo

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    1. thanks kiwi

      I do overthink its a terrible problem i have lol

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  8. its your blog tori just write as you feel, you deal with the annoyomouses and twats so well...laughs

    blossom x

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    1. lmao

      Oh mostly i just brush them aside, writing what i feel isnt always that easy.

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  10. Write what you want to write. This is your space. If one day you want to talk about dancing bears and the next bruises, so be it.

    Speaking for myself (and probably most of the folks that read here) I like coming here :)

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  11. The question is this: Why does the nature of our blogs change - the weight of others examining our words cause problems.

    In my case, it was H's examination (and misunderstandings) that stopped my frequent posting, but I had been feeling at odds with the blogging world also. I am trying to remember that while the same 15-20 people comment every time, my pages are viewed 1,000 times a day - and while I love the people who comment, they are not the only people who find something here to read.

    Anyway, I think it is very hard to keep going knowing others are viewing and judging. Ironically, it is also hard to keep going when no one is viewing. Sigh.

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  12. Sending hugs and thoughts your way! Hope your healing and just busy with life.

    Hugs,
    mouse

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  13. I think we all have to pause and think from time to time - what is the purpose, what do I write about? I am kind of doing the same thing, but have probably stepped up my posts (might be temporary). Hope you are well and are just thinking...

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  14. Just checking in on you Tori, hope all is well.

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