"Do you have a contracted M/s agreement?" and i have jumbled this in with another comment ..kill 2 birds with 1 stone....and yeah sorry for not getting to these earlier..blogging been a bit lapse lately.
No we do not have a contract, never have, i appreciate their usefulness and benefits for those that do, but its not something we ever discussed, personally my thoughts are that i dont see any benefits for us in our relationship to warrant having one.
"I want my limits to be respected I don't want them pushed this does not make me unsubmissive just because you enjoy it doesn't mean everyone should?"
If you can find and quote me anywhere on my blog where i have stated that not having limits pushed makes one unsubmissive, or indeed anything where i have said that "everyone should be/do xyz" please point it out to me? if you can then i will humbly apologise.
For me i like having my limits pushed, sometimes not, but being submissive to another, or more accuratley to my Master means its not just about what/when/where i want or feel like submitting, i think a more clearer way of putting it is for us he determines how my submission is demonstrated, submitting is yielding to another...i ask is it submitting if its only things one like and enjoys? for us the answer would be no.
However apart from rare occassions mostly im happy and get enjoyment from serving him so although the emphasis may be on him and his wants/needs...my needs are getting met albeit in a different context..i want/need to please him.
So limits are important, and absolutley hard limits should be respected.
Im going to sign off by just saying though that 9 years ago i would have been adamant that i would not do let alone enjoy many of the things i do today (in all aspects of our relationship)...and many of those things i needed to be pushed, some i asked for off my own back and others just naturally fell into place.