Sometimes i want to escape (dont we all!) from the reality of everything that is going on, and i can get this blissful nirvana through being put in bondage, the more restrictive the better, its not about the s/m although i tend to seek that out when i am bound but its more about giving into 'letting go', to just let all the problems, all the stresses of everyday life blur into the background.
Initially my thoughts go into overdrive and it takes a while to settle down, the longer i fight (mentally) about being in bondage and being unable to move the longer it takes, but eventually there comes acceptance and what i can only describe as a sense of peace and nothing matters, my 'world' consists only of 'being'.....its centered around him.
Its similar i think to subspace but with no pain involved, im vunerable which i love because im in a state of mind that makes me easier to manipulate, no inhibitions, just acceptance that im dependent on him most especially if he incoporates breath play into it, and he is responsible for denying or giving me air....of course on a selfish note the orgasms achieved when having my breathing controlled are just amazing, it is however something not to be taken lightly, erotic asphyxiation is one of the ultimate highs for me but we are aware of the risks.
With bondage one of the most important elements is comfort, the wrist and ankle cuffs being secure enough to keep me attached to where he wants me but not too tight they are causing discomfort and putting strain on me, he wants me focused on whats going on, not niggles caused by the cuffs, leather is my preference, the classic steel ones are not versitile enough in my opinion and sure as hell are not comfortable.
I love bondage because i am at his mercy, even though i obey him without needing to be restrained, bondage heightens the senses, its more intense and practically it keeps me still when he needs me to be. Its incredibly erotic, i love being fucked when im bound, being tormented and teased and not being able to touch him, being kept on the edge until he chooses to give me release or not.
But sometimes its just about needing to escape.
I think you are correct..this is your way of reaching subspace. Pain doesn't have to be involved to get there. It's a state of mind and a euphoria based on being in a complete "zone" or "space". Everyone is different and therefore has differing needs and desires. For some it is pain that helps them let go...for you it's bondage. It doesn't really matter what the method is as long as it works for you and is what you need.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing this. I think it's great to see others activities and how it affects them. And to show that it doesn't have to be one specific thing, pain, to get a person to subspace. Very nice!
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Hi DV and thankyou
DeleteI think often its assumed that bondage has to be about participating in s/m and yes i concede quite often the two go together but its also a 'kink' in its own right.
Bondage is a great tool for both the dominant and submissive and can be hugely erotic.
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I like that you took a moment to talk about comfort. It is the sign of a good Dominant that even while they are restricting you, they are caring for you. Some people seem to forget that.
ReplyDeleteYep comfort is very important and is often overlooked, bondage in itself shouldnt be about causing discomfort.
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I really like bondage and agree that wrist comfort is very important.
ReplyDeletehi joey
DeleteYes its one of my favourite things, i like the security of it.
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I agree with DV, tori, pain doesn't have to be involved to get to subspace. Sometimes all Daddy has to do is say a phrase, or run his fingers through my hair and I'm all floaty, floaty. Maybe it has to do with the act of surrendering, it starts all the lovely brain chemicals that create the euphoria because of the way our memory works.
ReplyDeletehi June
DeleteI think most people associate subspace with pain but your correct it can be acheived by lots of other aspects some more easily than others, i think the most important aspect of subspace is the submissives mindset and what gets her there which is personal to the individual.
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