(yes i know, i will get to the equality post)
My nanna turned up on Saturday, unexpectedly, i am feeling appropriately ashamed and guilty as she travelled all the way from London to see me..and she is 94, physically she is failing but mentally she is as sharp as she has ever been, well memory can be a bit dodgy, and eyesight is going.
I should make more of an effort to see her more often as she is my last living grandparent, and i do enjoy conversing with her, she has led a colourful past.
My nanna for her age and the time she was brought up in has a very modern outlook, and keeps up with what is going on, as i discovered when she announced she had watched 50 Shades of Grey and deemed it nothing exciting or new, and that we youngsters think we invented it, i shall remain grateful that she didnt elaborate further with a trip down memory lane!
However as she has aged she does have the tendency to think that this allows her to say what she likes, and it can sometimes be quite rude or perhaps thoughtless more than anything, because she isn't a nasty person but well she says what she thinks, which sometimes isnt appropriate.
She does like to guilt trip, to get people to do what she wants, usually its "I could be dead this time next year or even tomorrow" words to that effect, and the reality is at the age she is every day is a blessing...but then she has been saying that for the last 20 years...in fact probably longer!
She wants me to have a celebration for my 40th in November, which i have remained adamant that i dont want a big celebration of any kind, and yes she dropped the guilt trip on me, in this case it was "It would bring me a lot of pleasure to have something to plan, as I will probably be dead before it anyway"
Before i could actually protest and come up with a viable excuse, out the suitcase comes folders, information on venues, themes, potential guests, many of which i have no idea of who they are!
So, it looks like im having a masked ball in London,...yes a ball, not a party because to nanna a party is for children or hooligans....no i didn't even attempt to ask the reasoning behind that logic, and the guest list as it stands at the moment is at 123, and i dont know over half of them.
Nanna left this morning, and all sitting here wandering how we all got rail roaded by a 94 year old!