Friday 14 December 2012

Playing with others (when it goes wrong)

We havent 'played' with others for over 2 years, when we did it was fun, but there was one time when it wasnt, it was just awful, it could have had a detrimental effect on our relationship but we got through it, we learnt a lot from that situation.

We knew this couple and they were active in the local scene, the dominant in the couple wanted the four of us to meet up privately, the bossman had his reservations initially but i got on well with the female submissive, unbeknown to me a plan was hatched between them, i was the only one that wasnt aware.

We got up one morning and he announced we were going out, i wasnt allowed to ask where, i did notice him packing up a bag with some 'toys' so i thought we were going to go somewhere isolated and play, it didnt cross my mind that we were going to meet others.

It was a long drive so we stopped off for breakfast and i had butterflies in my stomach, i dont like surprises so i was on edge, this got worse when he took out a blindfold and told me to put it on for the duration of the journey, and then we stopped, he got out and he was talking to someone in whispers, i just sat there, i dont want to say scared but definitley really nervous and anxious.

Then i was led into their home still blindfolded, straightaway i was told to strip, Master was talking to the other man and i picked up then who it was and i relaxed, there was some 'sexual play' between me and the other sub then Master and the other dominant (lets call him Mr H) caned me simeltanously before stopping for a break.

The submissive (miss t) who previously i had always got on with and liked was distant, didnt speak to me, i felt like i wasnt wanted there, i knelt quielty at Masters feet while he spoke with Mr H and i tried to initiate a conversation with miss t but her responses were brief and it was clear that it was an effort for her to talk to me.

Mr H took photos of me whilst i was lying naked next to Master, which i was surprised at Master allowing but i kept quiet.

It just went downhill from then on, Mr H was focused on me and i did feel sorry for miss t, she was sat on a sofa while her Master was seemingly more interested in using me which i didnt want to happen, he made me feel uncomfortable, i cant really put my finger on what exactly but i didnt want him touching me, they seemed so different than the people we knew, it was like i didnt know them at all.

It became clear that Mr H was just interested in me and i wasnt just imagining it, Master and miss t may as well not have been there, he told me crawl over to him and before i did i looked up at Master for his persmission which he gave and this irked Mr H he wanted me to obey him instantly without looking for direction from Master..but that wasnt going to happen unless i was told to by my Master.

He wanted to see me on the wooden horse and said that was what he planned next, Master interrupted at this point and said that it was up to me if i wanted to, at this point i knew Master had came to the same conclusion as me because for him to give me the decision he was letting me know i didnt have to and he wouldnt be disappointed if i refused...so i did.

Master then said it was time for us to leave, which Mr H was visibly annoyed about, he didnt get what he wanted, we left, it was strained but it was the aftermath when the shit really started.

It started with emails being sent to me by Mr H, which i passed to Master to read, i spoke to miss t and got an understanding of why she was so 'cold' towards me, at the time i was in my early 30's and Mr H and miss t were late 60's and MrH saw me as a younger bit of stuff to get his hands on, i dont blame her i would be angry as well if Master was willing to put me to one side just to get his hands on someone younger.

Master emailed MrH and there were threats made, he had photos of me, he knew our names and could expose us which generally if your active in the scene its respected that you dont 'out' people, it got nasty.  Miss t made a post on a uk bdsm site about what had happened, i was described as being "in a drugged up state" it was just awful.

I cried a lot, i was scared of the repercussions, my job, Masters job, my children, family etc, it was a nightmare, Master was more calm thank goodness and kept assuring me it would all be ok but i blamed him, he put us in that position and it was his fault, i trusted him to keep me safe and he failed, it rocked us for a while.

I realised later that i was taking it out on him because i needed to, but i know it wasnt his fault, we learnt a lot from it, and actually it made us stronger.

We have 'played' with others and have had great experiences, ones that i can look back and have fond memories of, will we again? i dont know, never say never i guess.





17 comments:

  1. That is a frightening story, especially the aftermath of what they did to you.

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  2. Wow. What a nightmare. It must have been horrible for you when you received the emails.

    I have played with a group of people many times, I really enjoy the dynamic of multiple people.

    I have had one very bad experience in he scene so I am very cautious and I do not like pictures.

    Thank you for sharing.

    Hug,
    joey

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    1. Thankfully most experiences we have had have been positive because everyone wants to have fun, which is how it should be.

      But it certainly has made us more careful.

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  3. Weve never played with others, but we have talked about it. Thank you for sharing this.

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    1. It can be a great experience if its something you both want.

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  4. it just shows you how careful one has to be in situations like this, feeling you can trust them because they are in the lifestyle and it turns out to be a nightmare for you both. thanks for sharing tori it will put us all on alert when it comes to something like this.

    blossom x

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    1. Yes its important to be careful and trust your instinct, thankfully it all came to nothing but it was horrible at the time.

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  5. Sorry to hear about this experience. But thanks for sharing. And let it be a warning to others to be careful about their play partners.

    FD

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    1. Thanks FD, it certainly made us be more cautious and thats always a good thing i think.

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  6. Oh thank you for sharing this story.

    We've considered (talked about a LOT) playing with others but I think this kind of thing is what scares us and prevents us from actually doing anything about it.

    It just goes to show how careful one needs to be in these sorts of situations.

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    1. It can be great Fondles, i wouldnt want to put people off but its best to be very cautious but then saying that we had know way of thinking it would turn out the way it did so you just dont know.

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  7. What a horrible thing to do. I'm glad nothing bad came of it.

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    1. It was horrid but yes thankfully they didnt take it as far as they threatened.

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  8. Oh my goodness! This is a terrible story! I don't understand how people can turn on each other like this....it just hurts my heart.

    I am so sorry you and your Master had to go through something like this. But it is good to know that you learned something from it and that you haven't completely let this experience turn you off of something that you enjoy.

    *hugs

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    1. It was a shock as we had got to them really well...or so we thought, i dont know why people would want to intentionally set out to be malicious!

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    2. Well, as my BD would say, "It's the human condition. People want what they want and very few are willing to try to get it the right way." He has a much less "sunshine and roses" view of the world than I do. But I do see that people can be evil, I just choose to believe that perhaps most of them would choose not to be.

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