Friday 4 September 2015

Back to normal....ish/ooh and a bit of kink

The holidays are over, daughter is back to school today, although I have yet to understand the point of going back on a Friday! my son, having got the results he needed is off to uni in 2 weeks, so it's been a really hectic last couple of weeks, getting prepared for that, but mostly just spending time all together, which has been lovely.

But it's nice to get back into some sort of routine, more time to get back to blogging more regularly, i hate to think how long it's been since a kink post!

I shall rectify that right now :)

Well, more of an observation/reflection really.

A friend of mine, and her husband decided to try swinging, way back earlier in the year and really enjoyed the experiences, and are well into it now, and we have had some laughs as she describes some of the encounters, but, getting to the point, she was taken aback when I said it was something I had no interest in.

"but your kinky" she exclaimed!!!

*sigh*

Why is it, it is often assumed that being kinky must mean 'up for anything', screwing different men, whether I know them or not, is not something that appeals to me at all, not that i have anything against it, it just does not interest me.

I have not had sex with another man, since being with Master, i prefer to be monogamous, that does not mean that he has to be, although he has not had sex with any other woman, he could and I would have to deal with it, would I like it? well that's another matter entirely.

I have reflected on this a fair bit, going from completely against it, to the point that should he decide that's what he wanted, to have sex with another, I would have to think very carefully if I could continue as we are to am i a failure as a slave for thinking that?  because surely my focus should be on that it gives him pleasure?  but at what expense?

Then the other part of me, the part i hate, but i have to admit its there, the thought of it appeals to my emotional masochistic side, i would have/need to know every detail, and that very thought turns me on, because i wouldnt want to watch, or even to participate, but to be blindfolded in the same room, to hear...fuck yes!














12 comments:

  1. Hi Tori, it's so great to hear from you. Congratulations to your son on getting the results he needed for uni. Glad you enjoyed some family time over the holidays.

    I'm not sure how I would feel either if Rick wanted to have sex with other women,

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. thanks, Roz

      Im so pleased for him, he worked so damn hard.

      Yep I have moments when Im ok with it, and then I am not, it's a case of it happens we shall see!

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  2. I've been wondering where you've been! I thought you'd gone off and left us for FetLife. Lol.

    Failure of a slave? Nah, you're just being careful. It's impossible to know exactly how it would turn out. And one has to ask themselves if it is worth the risk, right?

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    1. Nope, still here, but lacking motivation,

      That's exactly it!!! is it worth the risk? not sure about that yet!

      x

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  3. Tori,

    Lovely to see a post from you.
    I think "kinky" got defined as being 'loose and free' eons ago and that's why its the foremost thought in people's minds.

    This issue, of what happens if one's Dom sleeps with someone else in a CNC dynamic...I think its the emotional equivalent to "What would you do if he chopped off a limb?"

    There is a certain cruelty in returning to school on a Friday. Weird.

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    1. hi ya Bleuame

      Yes, I have been absent, I'm struggling with what to write, lacking inspiration as well.

      I like the way you put that...emotional equivalent of chopping off a limb....yes, it is, not looked at it that way before.

      x

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  4. The thing that confounded me is that swingers are frequently not kinky at all. I found this out from some friends who are both kinky and swingers, who told me at the swapping parties, even a little light ass smacking is regarded as way out there kinky stuff, and certainly there is no power exchange visible or bondage, or any of that painful fun that we like.

    As far as the "what if" scenario, in my life that is not theoretical, that is reality. So, yeah. It is handled with much communication and a lot of submission on my part.

    Ten years ago my answer to that question would have been OH HELL NO. But I wasn't his submissive or his slave then. He's changed my feelings. Now my answer is "I would like to watch, please, it turns me on." I had a much more difficult time of it when I wasn't able to be there, knowing what was happening but not being in the same room.

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    1. Yes, that's my train of thought as well, yet it's assumed if your kinky your up for anything!

      Watching most definitely has an appeal for me, the rest...the jury is still out on lol

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  5. Its noce to see your post! Its funny how sometimes a fantasy can be amazing but the reality of it scares the shit out of us!

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    1. thanks Linda

      Yep sometimes fantasies should just be left as such

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  6. Swinging is not for everybody you have to be very secure in yourself as a person and as a couple and communication is a must with it just like in this lifestyle. It can be a fun kink but basically you have to look at it as a living sex toy and nothing else lol.

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    1. An interesting way of looking at it, that does put a different perspective on it! thank you

      x

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