tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348741119843312019.post324030110349813481..comments2023-05-21T15:25:29.957+01:00Comments on Pain's Pleasure: Values on behaviourtorihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06358391889176400481noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348741119843312019.post-734548777794541352014-05-06T22:10:03.923+01:002014-05-06T22:10:03.923+01:00thanks Roz
It is difficult, sometimes i think it ...thanks Roz<br /><br />It is difficult, sometimes i think it shouldnt be, but it is, but then i do admit i do like to get my own way lol<br /><br />xtorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06358391889176400481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348741119843312019.post-65569365391126391042014-05-04T12:50:10.432+01:002014-05-04T12:50:10.432+01:00Well said Tori, I find it a struggle at times not ...Well said Tori, I find it a struggle at times not to act up to get his attention. As you said though, his disappointed in my behavior is gut wrenching. Not the attention I was looking for! <br /><br />Hugs<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348741119843312019.post-90633354072917162572014-05-03T23:55:53.755+01:002014-05-03T23:55:53.755+01:00there is i think a fine line between being playful...there is i think a fine line between being playful and topping from the bottom, of course what one dominant may call tftb another one may not.<br /><br />Generally, having been with my Master some years now, i know by his tone of voice or his demeanor when its not a time to be playful and of course through trial and error lol<br /><br />being silent isnt helpful, try to think that the better you communicate with him, he will learn more about you, the more he can learn by listening and talking the better or rather more effectively and he can give you what you want/need.<br /><br />xtorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06358391889176400481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348741119843312019.post-12933619351096334642014-05-03T23:51:32.101+01:002014-05-03T23:51:32.101+01:00yep messing around and having fun is important, an...yep messing around and having fun is important, and should have its place....wouldnt want it all serious all the time.<br /><br />Communicate is always the answer i think.<br /><br />xtorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06358391889176400481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348741119843312019.post-21038244136675234282014-05-03T23:49:41.545+01:002014-05-03T23:49:41.545+01:00it is difficult though i think, although i am pron...it is difficult though i think, although i am prone to making excuses at times, in my mind sometimes they are valid lol, running the home, 2 children, well my son is 17, but in some ways my 12yr old daughter is more mature!<br /><br />Life just sometimes does get in the way, or rather vanilla distractions can be overwhelming and causes stresses, tiredness etc.<br /><br />xtorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06358391889176400481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348741119843312019.post-38660468127792440392014-05-03T23:46:31.922+01:002014-05-03T23:46:31.922+01:00I do appreciate that for some it is part of their ...I do appreciate that for some it is part of their relationship and so is acceptable, but no like yourself its not for us, and yes his disappointment in me when and if i do act out is the worst.<br /><br />xtorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06358391889176400481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348741119843312019.post-5074616013781192862014-05-03T22:57:15.820+01:002014-05-03T22:57:15.820+01:00I struggle with the line between the two. We'v...I struggle with the line between the two. We've always had a very playful relationship and I'm very snarky. It's hard to pick my spots for what is just "playing around" like we always have and what is "acting out". There have been some times where I've gotten punished for something I meant in jest that he took seriously. Master hates me topping; the funny thing is that I typically don't when it matters. Guess we're still trying to figure out how to not lose the "us". I don't talk when I can't talk freely because I think and discard EVERYTHING as impropriate. And he doesn't want a silent sub. growing pains.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11586413894142517367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348741119843312019.post-43917217518636946012014-05-03T21:39:00.946+01:002014-05-03T21:39:00.946+01:00With us, there's messing around and being sass...With us, there's messing around and being sassy and having fun - on both our parts - and then there's grumpy, stressy behaviour. Now, he's a very understanding man, but quite reasonably, only to a certain point, so if I allow myself to lapse into grumps when I'm craving, I actually risk putting him off wanting to do anything at all with me, so I do try to just communicate instead.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03012486777344302375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348741119843312019.post-70909199498326559982014-05-03T13:44:19.551+01:002014-05-03T13:44:19.551+01:00I'm learning - slowly - to ask or just tell hi...I'm learning - slowly - to ask or just tell him my needs or struggles - when it comes to things that are obviously M/s or lifestyle related. I have trouble with the everyday things - the interactions as we pass each other busy with kids and jobs and everything else... I don't walk the line so well when i'm frustrated or tired or fed up or at wits end with plain old life and it bleeds through in my tone and my behaviors. I know that it's all us - it's all our dynamic - maybe it's my way of acting out - doing it when it's not just him and me. Maybe i should give that some harder thought. Cuz you're right - he does deserve better.greengirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06897315716330033528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348741119843312019.post-85501453799593019962014-05-03T03:30:05.353+01:002014-05-03T03:30:05.353+01:00Well said. Master would be very disappointed in me...Well said. Master would be very disappointed in me if I acted out like many submissives do. It isn't part of our relationship. I hate the way he looks at me when I do act out - it is worse than any other punishment to me. Master's Pethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10944635484449235627noreply@blogger.com